Ladies, I need an online smack upside the head. Long context story short(ish); In the past, uhh....generous...with my choices of sexual partners in the past. Like, LVMs, HVMs, and everything in between. I was young and having my wild times, and I mean wild. Went on dates to "score", wasn't interested in a relationship. I'm pretty picky with who I actually give an emotional shit about. I was the female equivalent of a fuckboy and transparent about it. BUT, about 9 months ago I moved states and shifted my mindset on a lot of things. Among many other healthy decisions, I just stopped hooking up with anyone or even going on dates. I focused on work and myself and have come a long long way and I'm proud of that. I've been ready to actually date (not just find some easy mediocre times) and hopefully find someone I truly respect and want to be serious with. But I'm being haunted by penis' past.

Here's where the online smack comes in. An old FWB slid into my DMs and even though he's in that other state, I was feeling frisky and still entertained his fantasy. Said things I shouldn't have, sent things I shouldn't have and now he keeps coming back for more and tries to have convos like that every day. A lot of old hookups do randomly and I'm just not really in that headspace anymore. I LAUGH at their attempts and see how far I've grown past all that. I feel kind of gross about the slip up and am definitely not in the mood for that stuff on the regular like I once was. I know a lot of these past guys are only interested in what I can do to them. Though many are still a good men and I don't mind staying in touch, but how can I properly avoid my past behaviors catching up to me like this? How can I set the tone with these people who know me one way, without being a dick?

Thanks ladies, sorry it wasn't actually that short. Y'all are lovely and give me life.