Thomas had never seen such bullshit before

2020-08-04T06:02:45+00:00

IT IS NOT TOXIC TO WANT THE BEST FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR FUTURE CHILDREN. I don't want to be stricken with anxiety and insecurities. I don't want my children to go through family traumas! It's not toxic to date up. I was raised that way within my family and culture. I will keep that value.

divination__ · 2020-08-04T11:35:49+00:00

i literally do not understand what a man brings to a relationship if he doesn't at the very least earn as much as his partner... its doubtful he will be more emotionally supportive than other female friends, i sincerely doubt he would do as much childcare and domestic work as a woman does/would be expected to do, what does he actually bring? of course there are situations where the 'house husband' dynamic does work and that's great! but that takes a special kind of man who is deeply kind and emotionally intelligent and genuinely progressive. there is so much extra baggage on women societally, and biologically as we are the ones who have to go through pregnancy and labour, that asking for an EQUAL PAYCHECK is really not asking for too much. especially as you will need someone to support you through pregnancy and parental leave when you are not really in a physical or mental state to work.

i agree with the suggestions that aparna is narcissistic though, she is definitely on that narcissistic spectrum, i don't think that has anything to do with her standards or her being a woman, it seems more like the result of a pretty traumatic childhood. imagine your mother saying to you as a child 'never embarrass me or make me look bad'??? that would make you deeply anxious and insecure internally and would also normalise being deeply judgemental and cruel to others. she was just very insecure and frankly quite rude. it is not fds to be rude in the way that she was.

also as a side note the very use of 'toxic femininity' just proves that whoever is using it doesnt actually understand what 'toxic masculinity' means... the latter being used to describe how masculine standards and expectations can be detrimental to men in a patriarchal society (rather than some blanket criticism of masculinity as a whole) whereas 'toxic femininity' is just another way to shame, control, and criticise women.

merigoround1996 · 2020-08-04T05:53:39+00:00

Okay I totally agree with everything you said but I also realllllllly didn’t Liem aparna on Indian match maker. There was something about her that rubbed me the wrong way. She didn’t settle and knew her worth so I’ll give her that, but my GOD was she annoying af!!!

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-08-04T13:22:51+00:00

Lol having standards for your life partner is toxic now. And it's "toxic femininity" no less! Sorry but femininity is only toxic to women. That's the whole point.

No way I'm going to date down if I don't have too. Lol If you can get better things as a woman you should take them.

Allaboutb1 · 2020-08-04T09:51:16+00:00

Well, if it is, it’s only in response to their toxic masculinity. Shape up, men.

paperbagskirt · 2020-08-04T10:43:43+00:00

Your title made me lol 🤣

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