We all make mistakes. Don't be so hard on yourself for not knowing better.

agnes_gruu · 2019-11-28T00:01:57+00:00

i cried yesterday because i remembered my ex that i blocked. and then later that night , i saw some screenshots i still have on my phone from a guy i dated last year. i read his cringey, manipulative and negging comments about me again, and i cried because i let those all go and didn't know better at that time.

but i'm happy knowing that i'll never go through that again. i'm really happy i found this sub!

Meredeen · 2019-11-28T01:15:33+00:00

Before I came to this sub I had really low self esteem as a woman because I've never really been around other women who advocate for boundaries. I was worried about ME being good enough for a man. Now I don't give a shit whether I am dating somebody or not, I'm really happy to be doing my own things on my own schedule. As a goal I'm going to foster cats when I have the place and money to do so. I won't let a man into my life unless he meets my high standards because I'm actually happy being as I am now.

(The only thing I'm honestly worried about is being financially secure. I'm going to graduate next spring and don't know what my financial future looks like as a fresh-in-the-market graphic designer.)

j_bo · 2019-11-28T00:20:52+00:00

Thank you for this message. I am greatful for finding this sub and the support and advice that you fine strangers have provided.

-emilia · 2019-11-28T02:42:32+00:00

Last year I dated a guy who I thought was a HVM that I deserved after being single for some time. He really was an amazing guy and taught me so much, but he led me on for so long knowing he wouldn’t ask for commitment. I thought he just needed time, because I met his family, friends, expressed feelings and were basically a couple but it was a situationship and it hurt.

I’m disappointed that I would do so much for him and I knew he wouldn’t do the same. I definitely hit some low points but I learned from it and am now glad I found this sub to reaffirm that I am a catch and know my worth. Thanks FDS!

Inez_Honeyfox · 2019-11-28T00:56:25+00:00

This made me cry. I’ve been through entirely too much heartbreak in the last decade and I just need to keep moving forward. I need to forgive myself. 💙 thank you for posting this

Mtothe3rd · 2019-11-28T02:08:43+00:00

I needed this, thank you.

I’ve started checking up with a friend of mine about these behaviours. We call each other once a week, and it often goes like:

Call 1: me explaining something about the guy i’m dating, her giving me good advice where i realise i’m being silly and using strategies picked up in a very abusive relationship. Mind is calm again for a few days

Call 2: her explaining X, me repeating her advice to her (“remember what you told me last time? Same same, bibi”)

We use so much info from this sub! Can’t believe how much better we’re doing

Fireball2010 · 2019-11-28T02:56:05+00:00

I needed this. Self-forgiveness is really hard for me, but I have to make it part of the healing process.

Title	We all make mistakes. Don't be so hard on yourself for not knowing better.
Author	50sweet25ice
Upvotes	387
Comments	10
Date	November 27, 2019 5:48 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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