What do you guys think about this?

Petra-24 · 2020-05-14T08:31:05+00:00

Know your worth. Know your worth. And never ever be afraid to dump a man.

Neat_Communication · 2020-05-14T07:07:14+00:00

I actually really like Dave Ramsey for my own personal finance guidance.

With regards to dating, i think the guy was okay for saying its not in my budget but we can do it next month. I would respect that as a woman but would definitely be cautious if his replacement suggestion would be something like mcdonalds or panera.

I think $500 is ridiculous for a second date imo of course. I would be impressed if it happened but its not necessary for a second date.

However i do have bougie tendencies and probably would fall under the “princess” category Dave refers too. I mean I always hint to guys I’m high maintenance early on and that I don’t split the bill ever, just to weed out cheapskates.

I think if I was in a serious relationship/fiancée/marriage I would definitely expect my man to afford a $500 date regardless of whether it’s a special occasion or not. But obviously every date wouldnt need to be so expensive and definitely not a second date.

But if a man says he would never take me out on an expensive date or seems cheap, especially he has that kind of disposable income that’s a huge red flag.

Know your worth ladies. Definitely worth a $500 date and more. But obviously accommodate for the circumstance and be reasonable. I think it would be reasonable if the woman said okay lets go to this restaurant next month when its in your budget. My $0.02

jayda92 · 2020-05-14T13:26:31+00:00

Just shows how much guys hate it to be ignored. Hallelujah for the handbook! This girl is a 👑👸

husheveryone · 2020-05-14T13:30:35+00:00

Dave: “I gotta tell ya, I don’t know what girl’s worth that [a $500 2-person meal].”

Sounds like Dave doesn’t get out much and maybe doesn’t value women.

Edit: Dave acknowledges here he’s “a cheap redneck” and I agree!

Edit2: The hypothetical man here gets at least $250 of the economic value of the meal. (And notice the guy waffles about the real cost, at one point saying “$200 per person for a 5-course meal” which is LESS than the $500 meal he keeps quoting. (He lied - did this even happen?)

And yet Dave keeps framing this entirely as a female “Princess” problem? Nah. Dave clearly needs an Econ 101 refresher about valuation.

Seraphinx · 2020-05-14T14:29:33+00:00

Personally I am earning nowhere near enough for that kind of restaurant to be within my budget, so there's no way I'd consider a man cheap if he didn't want to take me somewhere like that. Likely I just run in different social circles to a lot of you.

I am not the type who has expensive taste, and honestly to me, $500 dinners would be a waste of money. I really can't see the food being THAT good, and $500 could be put towards a vacation or something far more memorable than a meal that'll pass through my system in 8 hours!

I would consider a man who'd be willing to spend that much money on a SECOND date to be financially irresponsible, and I'd be pretty concerned about the type of personality that feels the need to throw that kind of money around. Is everything about you so deficient that you need to use money to impress? What else do you spend insane money on, are you in crazy debt??? Does he throw money at every second date, is he just trying to maintain a harem of sugar babies? (I'm no baby so unlikely 🤣)

That said, after a relationship is established and on special occasions, if he is a high earner and high spender, then yeah I'd consider a total refusal cheap, though the way he framed it (I'll put it in my budget for next month) would earn him points in terms of a being a sensible grounded man who plans properly for the future.

I do think context is important here.

Title	What do you guys think about this?
Author	0039306105
Upvotes	8
Comments	14
Date	May 14, 2020 6:20 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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