What to do I know leave but need support

kwalden2 · 2020-08-29T07:54:12+00:00

He's literally saying that to hurt you. There is NO truth to what he is saying. Unreasonable? Really? Reasonable and good people would never think it's okay to take advantage of others- no matter what. He is NOT a person you should be listening to about what is reasonable. Do you hear me? He is NOT the person to listen to. I did not stutter. He sounds like an absolute jerk. I don't trust or believe a word he says. Get help from someone else in your situation about determining what is reasonable. You already know you need to get away from the bad influences, so be sure to have positive socialization and fun activities in the process. Focus on the good, and seek help for any potential problems where you can. I know you will feel much better in time because you're about to drop some serious dead weight from your life here! Take moving on at your own pace though

2020-08-29T08:18:01+00:00

Do not waste any more time and energy on this fool. The best way to leave is to do without reply or without “closure” and block.

Unless you want to let it all out on him be my guest, it feels good to get it off your chest and then block lol.

He does not deserve an explanation. Don’t waste energy trying to prove to him how he’s an asshole or trying to make him see from your perspective.

You can’t wake someone pretending to be asleep.

brittany20204 · 2020-08-29T09:52:26+00:00

ghost him

2020-08-29T11:45:00+00:00

Unreasonable? Most likely he is being the unreasonable one.

Your standards should be unreasonable. Your standards can be as high as the sky and they are your standards... so why reason? Do not lessen yourself and become reasonable. Be inconvenient.

I hope that you don’t have to deal with him the rest of your life. Go live your best life :)

alichuchu · 2020-08-29T14:02:09+00:00

he’s abusive and a p.o.s. and nothing abusive people say is ever real. do not interact with this person anymore. block him everywhere and NEVER associate with him again. do not let him back in. take a step away from dating and level yourself up. focus on bettering yourself through therapy, self care, and self realizations. get to know yourself. i promise when you’re focusing on yourself, thoughts of him will drain away like water in a sink!

chateauduchat · 2020-08-29T14:15:45+00:00

YOU DESERVE BETTER. This is ABUSE, plain and simple. Once a man starts doing this, they will not backtrack, they ONLY get worse. Do not believe his apologies. Abusers are abusers. Please, please run sis. Tell someone what he called you that you trust that will hold you accountable if you feel like you’re not strong enough to do so.

I wasted such a long time of my life being with a man who called those things. Eventually, he got even worse. He got physical with me. It almost always escalates.

This is not love. Block. He doesn’t deserve another word or interaction with you ever again.

wildappleslice · 2020-08-29T07:32:45+00:00

He’s an ex for a reason. Block him and don’t look back. Don’t waste any more of your precious time and energy on a scrote.

IntrepidStorage · 2020-08-29T21:15:40+00:00

So you have money, right? Like, you have your own bank account and enough to get by without his financial support? Make nice enough to grab all your stuff from his place, and get out. You don't need him and you don't want him, so, no reason to keep him.

2020-08-30T03:54:24+00:00

I am in the car the other day after work and crying because it was the worst day ever. I kept seeing hot men all around me and caught myself thinking they would come to rescue me. WTF lol. Anyways I just told myself over and over again that no one is coming and I’m here for myself and I can get myself through this. No one is coming. I have to be theee for myself and fix this for myself. I have to be strong for myself. Maybe you can do the same kind of thoughts?

2020-08-30T14:24:12+00:00

Block him

sunset74420 · 2020-08-29T15:33:46+00:00

Ugh. Sorry you are going through that. Guys take advantage because they can. It has nothing to do with what the woman did or didn't do. I have no idea what your situation is with this guy, but the less you are exposed to his BS, the better. Maybe ask yourself, what keeps you in communication with this person? Whatever it is, is it something you can achieve in another manner? How can you eliminate or at least minimize the damage that he has done and is doing to you? Where and from whom can you receive support? Sorry if this is not chock full of advice, but I am hesitant to just throw out answers because I am not the one in the situation, and sometimes we have real reasons for not doing what other people tell us to do, whether it makes sense to those on the outside looking in, or not.

Title	What to do I know leave but need support
Author	brittany20204
Upvotes	19
Comments	14
Date	August 29, 2020 7:22 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/iiocnr/what_to_do_i_know_leave_but_need_support/
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