Ladies, this shit WORKS. You have to have patience and you have to really practice diligent self care and boundary-setting, but if you stick to the principles outlined here you will attract only high quality men.
I was stuck in a four year relationship with a manbaby. I was a live in mommy essentially. I was 27 at the time (he was 33) and he wouldn’t commit and he wasn’t what I needed or wanted.
I had come across some materials from Sami Wunder (I took plenty and left plenty, I didn’t follow her program to a tee) and I decided to leave my ex. I also decided that I wasn’t going to be the forever girlfriend anymore and I was not going to settle for less.
I stopped chasing. I stopped calling, emailing, texting, and all other initiation with men. I wouldn’t show up or ask to clarify plans if men only said “hey, did you want to meet up Saturday?”... if he never followed up with a time and place, he’d get scheduled over.
I stopped texting entirely. If men wanted to date me, they had to call. I flat out refused to be exclusive with men until I got a ring: I kept circular dating until my now-husband couldn’t bear it and literally kept me occupied the entire time. I didn’t even move in with him until we had a date for our wedding.
I can’t tell you enough how these principles being shared here will change your life. I’m a new person. I got the most incredible husband. I feel like the luckiest woman on earth.
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