Why is isolation normalized?

Karthasis11 · 2020-09-09T09:21:58+00:00

I guess it depends on the culture. In Germany it is seen as a pretty shitty thing to drop your friends for your bf.

Allaboutb1 · 2020-09-09T09:40:08+00:00

Yeah this happened to me with my cousin, who was my BFF. He got into a relationship with a super controlling guy who saw me as a threat and proceeded to kick me out of my cousin’s life. It ended our friendship. Then my entire family ganged up on me and told me I wasn’t allowed to “reject” the abusive boyfriend and I had to go and call my cousin and tell him I accepted the relationship. Pretty messed up. I have now distanced myself from all of them including my parents and sister. Not a one-off either, I have had multiple friends who either ditch/don’t have time for me after entering a new relationship. Often they only want to do ‘couple stuff’ and I’m left out because I’m single. Fun.

sstena · 2020-09-09T14:06:01+00:00

Boyfriends should have second or third place, though. Your life is what sustains you. A group of people who have been consistently good to you will always provide more safety and value than a single man in a culture that encourages him to be misogynistic.

Putting a man above all else is a sure fire way to end in a deep well of unhappiness and pain.

missangel89 · 2020-09-09T17:49:12+00:00

It also makes no practical sense for you. The breakup and divorce rate is high, so what are you going to do after that?

What if your partner gets sick long term or has to be away long term? Or dies? Who can you rely on?

Only focusing on your partner is putting all your eggs in one basket. It's also extremely selfish because you are not sharing love and happiness with others, just one person. I really don't get it.

Good girlfriends make life what it is.

GrapeJuiceEnthusiast · 2020-09-09T18:21:10+00:00

FDS always emphasises the need for close female friends but I've been struggling with this due to the existence of boyfriends. My best friend for example got a new boyfriend a year ago and since then we have barely talked. It's so depressing because even though I'm in a relationship I still make so much effort with my female friends. She on the other hand literally spends all her time with her new boyfriend.

Also I want to say I don't think he is controlling her or abusing her. I've known this guy for two years and he seems high value although obviously this could all be a front. I think she's just exhibiting some pick me behaviour and is fine neglecting her female friendships.

Proud-Purpose · 2020-09-09T18:49:42+00:00

It's not really normalized, it's just that scrotes will incessantly try to insert themselves into every facet of your interactions with your friends until you straight up avoid talking to them to keep the scrote from looking over your shoulder and asking "so what are you guys talking about".

Title	Why is isolation normalized?
Author	shadymiss99
Upvotes	47
Comments	11
Date	September 8, 2020 10:20 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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