Can’t figure out why she keeps getting ghosted after ‘great’ first dates

anon_likes_tendies · 2021-07-31T19:12:49+00:00

I have been trying to let the guy take the lead, and play a little hard to get (I don't really kiss or touch a guy on the first date.....)

And Then:

..or if there are any-obvious cues i should be picking up on?

Are we really that oblivious to everything?

Sounds like some kind of Friendzone, free entertainment date. No wonder the dudes move on to the next.

oirectine00 · 2021-07-31T20:07:50+00:00

Stop fucking accusing men of rape if they're a bit forward, maybe?

OkZebra9257 · 2021-07-31T23:25:05+00:00

At 27 guys aren’t interested in “hard to get” playing girls. That immature way of dating died in high school. Guys hate it and the older you and the men get the less patience guys have for it.

dbfkf · 2021-07-31T20:13:59+00:00

The entitlement is nauseating... Most likely the pictures and product dont match up.

nplusultra · 2021-07-31T19:12:59+00:00

She is probably a POS in conversations. Or 'ugly'.

Miserable-Lemon · 2021-07-31T20:21:20+00:00

So she's on a hookup app and is surprised she only finds hookups who aren't interested in her bait and switch "I want a mate" bullshit?

Wealthy_Ghost · 2021-07-31T19:17:54+00:00

Pump'n'dump practitioners in actions.

There are really only two types of dudes in there. 1. Foodie calls / blue pill ones who can't get a date and wonder why. 2. Pump'n'dump engines.

TooTarded4U · 2021-08-01T00:12:56+00:00

Either overweight or masculine attitude.

At that age, I'm guessing she's become entitled and jaded from riding the CC for 11-12 years, so now she's setting up all the hoops for Betas to jump through, acting masculine and competitive.

Men aren't interested in masculine women with a bad attitude.

and play a little hard to get...

That's all you need to know. "Play" -- she's 27 and playing games. Men at that age don't have the patience to play games.

Hayekr · 2021-07-31T23:42:03+00:00

As women are prone to do -- there is something major she is omitting in her story that she is unaware of, or she doesn't want us to know.

My guess is she is either insufferably boring to talk to, or she is fat/ugly and played fast and loose with her photos (heavy filters, listed her body type as 'average' or 'curvy' but pictures only from the neck up, old pictures when she wasn't a chonker, etc).

I'd go with the latter because men will continue to date a boring girl if they see a chance to get some action. If she is downright unattractive and was dishonest about her appearance, most men will just ghost after that.

Bottom line is, she is leaving an important variable out in this equation.

gfgdhj5784yu8 · 2021-07-31T20:17:21+00:00

I always preferred a woman playing a little hard to get on a first date. Kind of put me at ease that she wasn't a big 304 with a high body count and STDs.

I do not think this one is being ghosted for not being a slut, rather her looks or something else is chasing her dates away.

I do have a tiny bit of sympathy for the few "nice" girls out there trying to be a little traditional. Just a bit though, because after you let your guard down they eventually fall into the same old routines, scandalous behavior and psychological bullshit as their sluttier sisters.

IceCorrect · 2021-07-31T20:31:36+00:00

Isnt it bumble is app for women to make first move?

Or maybe she isnt ghosted just guy want to be invited to date too, to prove shes into him?

I think women this days mistake ghosting with "if im the only one who make effort to talk"

d1678480 · 2021-08-01T02:54:49+00:00

Women put themselves in a catch 22: They use up all their prime years engaging in hookup culture and then they want to get more serious after being all used up. Thankfully, more and more guys aren't falling for that bs and will simply ghost if they don't put out quickly.

However, the catch 22 is that even if they do put out quickly, then they'll simply be used as a sex toy and then ghosted later on. So a woman may ask: what is a woman to do? Nothing really, you can't. The best you could've done was stay a virgin and got with the good guy in your prime years, but even then, that is becoming more difficult to do because even the good guys are starting to learn about female nature and realize that even virgins aren't worth commitment because of that and because of the hookup culture world we live in.

You guys created this bed, time to lie in it.

BlueCollarSinner · 2021-08-01T04:58:20+00:00

I have been dating around have had many first dates

She's focusing on numbers and then acting like a prune playing hard to get. Typical women thinking she is a prize but she's probably oversized

OldSimpsonsisbetter · 2021-08-01T06:14:41+00:00

At least they can get dates. If you're an average guy, good luck even getting a girl to even talk to you on one of these apps. A fat ugly landwhale can legitimately get more dates than an above average man, it's so sad to see.

FritzLane · 2021-08-01T03:02:56+00:00

even if she heard the truth, her hamster brain wouldn't accept it

Sea_Temperature8667 · 2021-08-01T09:42:14+00:00

Yawn. Cry some more, girlie.

PrestigiousCarpet8 · 2021-08-01T11:44:04+00:00

Lol. Multiple first dates and she lines them all. Tells you everything you need to know right there. She's looking for a provider. There is no concept of love, just the idea that she needs A man right now.

selfism_mike · 2021-08-01T14:27:43+00:00

A realistic picture of her's might resolve the miracle.

Really tired of women describing themselves as perfect, and then you meet her and she turns out to be an unbearable bitch. "Oh, I thought he liked me." The guy was just polite and didn't tell you to your face that he didn't expect to meet a landwhale after seeing the high angle shot of your face on the profile. He was trying to get over the date as fast as possible without drama.

We don't owe women the truth especially if all they do is lie to us and use us all the time.

realChebz · 2021-08-01T23:40:13+00:00

yup I had many dates like that, if I see she isn't showing enough interest I stop trying and move on. I am ok taking the lead first date, but after that I expect reciprocity. If she's still sitting there waiting to be entertained further - I pass.

You cant build a relationship where guy only gives and she only receives. There is no investment on her end, so she will dump you the moment even a slightly better option shows up.

Title	Can’t figure out why she keeps getting ghosted after ‘great’ first dates
Author	felafelsmoke
Upvotes	93
Comments	53
Date	July 31, 2021 6:56 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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