Feeling down because I'm forever alone

FuzzyGrowth · 2020-04-24T04:13:28+00:00

Honestly dude that type of love you are looking for does exist. But unfortunately it cannot be given by another human being. Only you can do that. Only you can love yourself the way you deserved to be loved.

FairlyWhelmed · 2020-04-24T04:09:32+00:00

...I can't stop feeling like a failure because I feel like I am so retarded and worthless...

What if you were to accept that your mind will keep replaying shit like that indefinitely, and you were to pursue what you value anyway? You can choose to act according to your values and goals even while your mind minds. Consider reading "A Liberated Mind".

99% of humans can do naturally which is to get into a romantic relationship.

I think you're overestimating the percentage of humans who can naturally get into a romantic relationship. But, you know what? Your mind will keep telling you such things.

What do you actually want, though?

Gn0meRat · 2020-04-24T04:23:33+00:00

Ugh... I've been through a dozen through my life and been privy to seeing other couples up close and I've seen some shit. Believe me it's better to just go with your own flow. Only you can love yourself more than all these wahmens floating around. I mean really love yourself. Learn to cook the greatest foods, learn the greatest skills, the funnest hobbies, physical improvement, men have the will of the gods.

Your wording makes me think you haven't even been in a single relationship and if that's the case you have a lot to learn about what a joke humanity really is. The 99 percent you covet to in your post, it's a joke. Truly...

It's all just a sea of deceptions. You say it works for them but If I were to guess you're just seeing the pretty picture when out in public, the couple holding hands or other forms of affection in public. When they are alone, it's the world's best kept nightmares. The fighting, the lies, the psychological misery, the scheming. The government trap of the family courts. It's all worth walking away from.

Worth going your own way.

seasonsbleedngs · 2020-04-24T05:21:50+00:00

Seeing more and more posts like this. Same in MGTOW2, which is a much tamer sub in terms of red pill rage. There's a newer trend of red pill reaching younger ages before these boys have even had a chance at experiencing a relationship, so there's always that desire in the back of the mind. The frustration is understandable.

Bokulence · 2020-04-24T07:27:08+00:00

Here if you need some more clarification.

I am also forever single, 31, wealthy and more happy than 99% of people you think get into romantic relationship.

If you think getting into relationship for other to see you as normal and not as failure you really need to change that mindset.

Forget about healthy and loving relationship. That is disney-like fairy tale that you have been lied to.

micelli_illuminatti · 2020-04-24T05:11:55+00:00

Stay strong, my friend. This too shall pass.

deadBeefCafe2014 · 2020-04-24T10:07:45+00:00

The original source is hard to find, but there was some research that stated that 93 percent of marriages do not make the 10 year mark.

Now imagine the shame of failure when you lose that relationship and what will amount to close to half a million dollars when you are finally free of the fallout.

eos123456789 · 2020-04-24T09:56:27+00:00

You can only fail in things that involve effort. 50% are women, there is no effort involved in getting a relationship for them. It just 'happens'. Then we have 20% men, also no effort involved, so called Chads. And then you have 29% who are struggling really hard, who - with best effort - end up with a landwhale.

The only failure I see in you, is not understanding how all this works.

user_miki · 2020-04-24T11:56:26+00:00

It is difficult for young dudes to go MGTOW as such young age without experiencing relationship pains.I think they should date and make their own mistakes from their own experiences.As long as they are small mistakes and not lasting for life.It is difficult to describe that type of pain to somebody that never felt it.MGTOW is not against dating and having sex, it is against simping, marriage and cohabitation.

karlis1993 · 2020-04-24T12:36:59+00:00

with this kind of attitude you wrote, are you really ready to jump into emotional rollercoaster?

because it is all it is.

you will lose your aims. you will lose your sanity. and it will fakely feel like it is positive change in your life. you will feel alive finally. you will be living in a moment forgeting a concept "she is not yours, it is just your turn". you will blindely accept that she is yours and she is not emotionally or physically cheating you. you will be doing your best to hold her ass. you will fuck it up one day (she will just feel like you can't provide what she expects from you and she sees a better deal, but you get the point) and she goes for the next guy to suck into. you will be alone for some period. you will grieve and go into agony seeing this girl you romanticized about leave you so easily for another guy like nothing ever happened. poof, lightswitch...

you will stand up one day and go back into the scene again. you will repeat all this process above. same errors and same expectations of "love". and basically that will be your life.

it is generalisation, but actually the core process is similar to this.

the only thing you will gain from all this is her body. often or rarely. doesn't matter. nothing more nothing less. forget about that shit feeling connection and warmth between two people. it doesn't exist in real life, just in movies. woman fakes it to keep strings on you, remember. your feelings will last unconditionally. hers - till she finds another guy who gives her new tingles or provides more.

the reality is that you have to lose your desperation for woman to even get one if that is what you want. because being clingy never works even if she is not physicially attractive.

wise men usually will say things like go with your life. forget pussy. have passions. have money. have authentic character. build your life. build confidence and woman will just knock on your doors themselves. the thing is they are totally right, even blue pilled ones. but once you know motives of female from mgtow, you realize, it is still not because they finally look at you like you look at them - at love level. it is just because you finally made yourself worthy of society. and woman want what you were able to build.

is it really worth it? having a dog you love is definitely worth it. and building your life as you want it to be.

Count_Morrel · 2020-04-24T12:53:45+00:00

Mate, try and cultivate self acceptance and internal validation. Fill your life with what you’re passionate about. focus on your wealth your health; relationships aren’t rosey and I think you’re infatuated with the idea, and that can swing to resentment pretty fast. Find balance and work from there.

Introvert82 · 2020-04-24T14:06:57+00:00

If 99% jumped off a cliff and you didn't, would that be a failure as well? Stop trying to be normal, be yourself.

KookyFeedback4 · 2020-04-24T16:01:10+00:00

basically, this subreddit is about men going their own way, seems like you were sent your own way (kinda like me)

coughinguppubes · 2020-04-24T16:37:36+00:00

99% of humans can do naturally which is to get into a romantic relationship.

Most people manage to get into a succession of car crash relationships. You're not missing much.

Logandanielsboi · 2020-04-24T20:43:11+00:00

You aren’t MGTOW yet then. The fact that you are repulsed by women your age and how horrible they are tell me you are simp. You don’t see women being this desperate. Men are trash literally trends on twitter. Women make shirts saying the future is female. Women don’t care about you and yet here you are chasing them. Grow up

The_Whorror_Show · 2020-04-25T12:56:40+00:00

It's a tool, a mechanism. The reason you're feeling like that is because you're wasting your time doing nothing and you're unhappy with yourself for it.

What you need to do is pick one out two things that you're going to do every day. Mine is three. One is podcast, second is exercise and third is learn python and computer science shit.

When I don't do any of those three, those thoughts creep into my head. If I do one of those, I feel good, I do two or three? I'm ecstatic. My need to do things is my nature as a man, and society today managed to hijack my senses and redirect me into only thinking of attaining women. Women are an addiction that society and females are pushing on us. Disregard females, acquire currency, then the bitches will come. I've turned down easy sex with a 49r to gave sex with hot escorts. I've had sex with joy women only to be left wanting more and jerking off on her after she's cum. Now I realise women are an expense. They're not for all of us. Obviously I'm lucky in that I've been with a few women, but my number count is in double digits, I'm not no chad or Tyrone, unsee got confidence because the women who wanted me approached me. So obviously I'm not going to feel the negativity as painfully as incels will.

Mythrobo · 2020-04-25T17:23:37+00:00

like the top comment here, when he said

But unfortunately it cannot be given by another human being

Thats true. If you need another soul in your life who will be there for you, and loves you above everything else as you love them, then get dog of some kind. Unconditional love (but you first must show that love to the animal as well. Keep in mind, the relationship is still a two sided road).

Title	Feeling down because I'm forever alone
Author	CalmElk
Upvotes	13
Comments	36
Date	April 24, 2020 3:59 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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