Finally!

TimVertex · 2017-11-13T23:25:43+00:00

congrats

VanDriver1 · 2017-11-13T23:41:58+00:00

Sorry about what you are going through. This is a very supportive place to vent.

I walked out of my divorce final hearing and drove to an upscale mens clothing store. I walked in an the salesman said, "can I help you?" I said that I just walked out of divorce court and I want to feel better and I've been buying from the resale store for so long I don't know what it's like to have nice clothes so fix me up with; a jacket and a couple pair of pants. a pair of jeans.3 shirts and a nice pair of shoes." Yes sir," he said. And we spent the afternoon. $650.00 was the bill. I still have the shoes, and the jeans.

There were highs and lows. But, whatever. Good luck to you. Take care of your mental health and get help if you need it.

wsuofd · 2017-11-14T01:49:34+00:00

The best advice I would give is don't talk to your soon to be ex wife. Let the lawyers deal with it and don't let emotions get in your way of have a favorable outcome for you.

Don't fall for the crocodile tears.!!

Don't email, text her. Let her do all the texting email, etc. Anything you say written or verbal will be used against you!!

wsuofd · 2017-11-14T01:14:53+00:00

May your divorce be speedy and minimally destructive. I went through it a couple of years ago and let me tell you, things are sweet on the other side. Enjoy your newfound freedom.

801735 · 2017-11-13T23:27:00+00:00

Congrats.

file divorce today.

No more lies, cheating, and being hit.

Perhaps a little possibility still remains? It's not over over yet until it's over over?

Still you sound like a happy man, so that's nice to read. More power to you.

wsuofd · 2017-11-14T01:16:32+00:00

Be free. Stay single.

NiceIce · 2017-11-14T01:41:38+00:00

An excellent first step toward freedom. I was expecting to hear about the cheating and the lies, but now even the fact she was physically violent toward you no longer surprises me.

throwaway152038 · 2017-11-13T23:50:38+00:00

Hurray! 🎉🎉🎉🎉

bbm72 · 2017-11-14T00:59:20+00:00

Congrats, the world's your oyster!

yeahmaybe2 · 2017-11-14T05:10:46+00:00

Talk to every good divorce attorney in town so they can't be hers due to conflict of interest.

nunhgrader · 2017-11-14T05:12:57+00:00

Congrats - get ready for a horrible time and then - bliss once you are done!

chester444 · 2017-11-14T05:14:54+00:00

Congrats! Good for you. Takes a special source of strength and fortitude to follow thru on that. Many others here, myself included, have already traveled the same path. Best wishes, and keep us posted.

s0ma_ · 2017-11-14T05:43:02+00:00

MGTOW; his life finally begins

TheEconomist777 · 2017-11-14T03:54:26+00:00

verynormalsimple · 2017-11-14T04:49:21+00:00

and being hit

Well that's domestic violence there, make sure you mention that to your lawyer.

wsuofd · 2017-11-14T03:51:50+00:00

Lets hope you get through it with the least amount of (additional) damage possible.

Never a good thing a divorce, no need to make it worse. Just prepare for the worst but hope for the best.

salsbury2345678 · 2017-11-14T05:05:22+00:00

Get a nice drop cam on the house and maybe one inside👍🏻 Keep a journal and record any interaction but dont start an interaction. less is more tell family whats going on and why so she doesnt run to them for possible character witness under false accusations. Stay in the house😂

deadBeefCafe2014 · 2017-11-14T03:21:57+00:00

The first step towards freedom is memorable, indeed.

Get ready for the rollercoaster as you prepare, and good luck!

lulz3r · 2017-11-14T04:43:25+00:00

Good luck. Lawyer up hard.

frankmarlowe · 2017-11-14T06:12:46+00:00

Best of luck, brother. I hope the divorce goes as amicably as possible and you keep as much money and assets as you can.

dirtydog113 · 2017-11-14T06:50:15+00:00

Welcome to the first day of the rest of your life brother.

Beers in the fridge.

BooDoug · 2017-11-14T07:16:08+00:00

May the force of MGTOW be with you.

r/MgtowBooks

ravenswin · 2017-11-14T03:22:21+00:00

Don't leave the house!

sidel3 · 2017-11-14T05:51:18+00:00

You have taken your first step to a larger world.

strangerthing7 · 2017-11-14T06:00:20+00:00

Best of luck!

Nomfwic · 2017-11-14T06:11:39+00:00

Took some ballz . Congrats brother. Make sure you lawyer up properly and keep all possible proof. Don't want another D-rape case here.

You've got the ticket now, ramp up the skill and join the league of vigicians 8-D

Aussiewolf82 · 2017-11-14T08:31:26+00:00

Been there myself brother. As others have said just be prepared, get a good lawyer etc.. I managed to talk mine down after just getting advice from a lawyer, so I was lucky. Gl brother, may freedom treat you well.

Slaide · 2017-11-14T08:54:00+00:00

Remember:

She's a woman.

She will lie.

She will cry.

She will make false accusations. Always keep your cool.

Let the lawyers handle it.

DO NOT fucking meet with her unless instructed to.

If you HAVE to meet with her for some god forsaken reason, have trustworthy witnesses. Record everything. Inform her you will record everything or no go. Document everything just in case.

Do not give her an inch, she will take a mile.

The justice system is set against men. Do not give them an excuse to believe whatever bullshit she will assuredly spew.

Remember that women need us a LOT more than we need them (contrary to what the cunts want to convince themselves of).

wsuofd · 2017-11-14T12:37:52+00:00

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Gmiou · 2017-11-14T13:10:47+00:00

Yeap get a lawyer otherwise she will 100% fuck you up big time

BK20177 · 2017-11-14T09:56:47+00:00

You did the right thing. Now please for your own sake, don’t marry again.

TryDoingSomethingNew · 2017-11-14T07:20:13+00:00

Whenever you're really feeling the difficult moments -because you will, don't forget to reflect on how nothing, no matter how hard it seems, can remain so forever.

Remember George Harrison singing "This Too Shall Pass"

" Now the darkness only stays the night-time

In the morning it will fade away

Daylight is good at arriving at the right time

It's not always going to be this grey

All things must pass

All things must pass away

All things must pass

All things must pass away "

I realized sometimes even songwriters get it incredibly right, and he was right. Sometimes you just have to go day-by-day and remember these things.

>>song<<

nightranger1 · 2017-11-14T07:23:17+00:00

What happened between you and your wife? Im curious.

JackWithTheHammer · 2017-11-14T07:33:36+00:00

I analysis, but I heard that at least in some places, if you go to every lawyer in town and consult them (don't have to hire, just consult) then they will be biased and she can't hire any of them. Makes it really inconvenient. I heard of a bitch who used this against her husband. He had to go to another city to even find a lawyer who wasn't biased.

mixtro · 2017-11-14T07:38:00+00:00

I'm very happy for you, and wish you the best in your upcoming journey of peace and solitude without a nagging, fake wife. Live your life the way you want!

listen_to_ · 2017-11-14T12:14:23+00:00

Sorry to hear about being hit, brother :-(

Congratulations on the move. Up, up, and away you go!

Gmiou · 2017-11-14T13:20:39+00:00

If you don't have kids with her will be a lot easier. Me cause of that after 5 years still in pain!

SamCasey98 · 2017-11-14T15:49:37+00:00

Woot

FinFanNoBinBan · 2017-11-14T16:28:06+00:00

Now you can spend some time deciding who you want to be, who you want to be around, and how to enjoy this life.

NeverNeverLandIsNow · 2017-11-14T17:13:55+00:00

Congrats!! I separated in April and I am so much happier now, and I have taken up some old hobbies again and I bought a motorcycle which I had always wanted. You are in the rough part now, having to live in the same house for a little bit with the person you are leaving (or kicking out whichever way it goes), hardest 3 months of my life (I had a hard time finding a place to live that would take my dog) BUT once you are on your own, my god I had forgot how nice life could be until I was on my own again and felt a sense of hope once again.

Afab67 · 2017-11-14T18:31:29+00:00

Good. Now get yourself a good lawyer, preferably one that only represents men.

fingers_of_passion · 2017-11-15T00:01:04+00:00

Welcome To Freedom.

dopamine-delight · 2017-11-15T04:10:56+00:00

Sorry man..

If you were in a abusive relationship, it's a terrible experience. As a man, you'll be laughed at and ridiculed if you ever bring this up. Talk about this with other divorced men with similar experience but I wouldn't suggest venting to women/men who haven't experienced this. They won't understand and probably dismiss you.

Just talking from experience.

cleverbutnotoverlyso · 2017-11-15T17:59:13+00:00

Good luck and best wishes for better days !

Petrus_ · 2017-11-18T04:21:24+00:00

Yeah! Congrats man.

X-Trem0 · 2017-11-14T13:36:05+00:00

Good for you! congratulations are in order :)

Title	Finally!
Author	wsuofd
Upvotes	393
Comments	104
Date	November 13, 2017 11:24 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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