Finding the courage to get a divorce before things get worse

iloveales · 2021-05-31T14:31:49+00:00

Document everything. Record her mental health issues and the way she talks to you. Get the best lawyer that specialized in mens cases. Come up with a strategy with your lawyer on when and how to break the news to her. Best case is you loose 25% of your pay + insurance for the next ~18 years and get weekend visits with your kid.

CoinSwapTrader · 2021-05-31T14:27:53+00:00

Women are like chinese finger traps....easy to get in hard to pull out...

f3wl · 2021-05-31T15:37:36+00:00

I have not gone through what you have, but over the years I have seen people recommend a book called fire your wife. Talk to every good attorney in town so they can’t represent your wife. The other thing I keep reading is to develop a gambling “habit” and to start pulling out money to stash as cash/crypto that your wife can’t find.

Canute87 · 2021-05-31T16:41:49+00:00

Consult a lawyer and follow every bit of their advice. This is their territory.

There's also a pdf online

"how to fire your wife "

Whole-Addition-9370 · 2021-05-31T14:55:55+00:00

Lawyer up, document & record everything.

Truth will prevail, even if hard times are to come. You will need to strengthen yourself mentally for the coming tides.

VettaS19 · 2021-05-31T18:09:43+00:00

Lawyer up like yesterday. Cover your ass and dont fuck yourself over. Set emotions aside because they are only a gun pointed at your foot in most situations. Use this as a lesson. So many guys (including myself) fall into the trap marrying way too early in hopes of the white picket fence, wife and kids pipe dream. I’m sorry to say that does not exist anymore. Women are more dangerous now than ever in our current society. I know it may not seem like it now but this is start of your journey of growth. You’re going to learn a lot about yourself. It’s a long painful process and it’s going to test your strength but when the light at the end of the tunnel approaches it actually ends up being pretty beautiful. Utilize your friends and family. Utilize these groups as well, lots of videos and other content of guys who have been through all this. We’re all here for eachother brother. I wish you good luck. Keep your head up and drive through.

rpbanker · 2021-05-31T15:10:21+00:00

Eat the frog. You don't want to live with this over your head for the next 18 years.

Salladus · 2021-05-31T22:38:00+00:00

Just do it.

I am divorced. My ex wife showed signs of being ready to fck me over at any time, especially if we had a kid. She kind of revealed her controlling behavior pretty early, because for some reasons (which are too long to explain here) she genuinely thought I was already stuck with her for life and would never divorce. At first I was in the same mentality as yours, I thought my story would be different, and I gave her the benefit of the doubt for quite awhile. I was dumb. But it was my married brother who warned me, and reminded me that once I have a kid with her, it's game over.

When I finally told her we will divorce, she was absolutely shocked. I swear she suddenly stopped ALL her toxic behaviors and became the most obedient girl I've ever seen. She begged me for days, and hoped I would change my mind even at the last moment at court. But a divorce it was.

Unfortunately you already have a baby with your wife, your situation is much more sticky. But still, the best thing you can do now is to divorce sooner than later.

svas2137 · 2021-05-31T19:04:42+00:00

Better to get divorce r@ped and live to tell the tale then to die a slow agonizing death by cancerous whym@n

Goaliej · 2021-05-31T14:58:44+00:00

Music really helped me through the whole process, from realizing what I needed to do, to keeping me strong while I did it, to starting to recover once it was done. It's a process. Some songs that helped me, to help you through...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XKLQjXlvNJc

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f4Mc-NYPHaQ

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fz1N8W8phec

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VQebhGFXxoM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oZNR38jQCS8

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CIY34oTa_LI

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TiCxqhu9cio

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r2zhf2mqEMI

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JgpmFp2DViA

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R3ZMfPXgd_M

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BWiz3R9jnz0

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bu3rsha1ZtI

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=06WM8oLH87M

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=swnudbCnccs

AltoDomino79 · 2021-05-31T16:57:44+00:00

You need to talk to a lawyer, that is the first step.

trump4president2024 · 2021-05-31T18:23:13+00:00

Marriage is full of some really tricky mental traps. This is what makes it especially insidious.

Bottom line: If you sense something is wrong, immediately contact a lawyer and be the first to file for divorce. Respect your gut feelings/intuition regarding women for they are seldom wrong.

Ody_ssey · 2021-05-31T15:48:36+00:00

Stash your money in BTC and file for bankruptcy. She will divorce you as soon as you become poor in real currency. Focus on how to hide property ownership.

Dense_Block_5200 · 2021-05-31T15:52:30+00:00

If you're for real here's what worked for me. File a emergency restraining order against her with claim for custody of your child. operate on how you feel deeply unsafe and feel fear for your kid. Support those feelings by limited facts. Just anecdotes. In your case, avoid sharing the suicide thoughts. Society thinks men who feel this way are likely to murder others. in the state i did this there is no respondant opportunity. Then, once that's done find a lawyer who drinks blood. Then, once retained, leave with your kid.

Do NOT leave the jurisdiction or the state. Find new daycare or arrangements for your kid while you go to work. NOT the fucking mom at this point ffs.

Cease ALL communication except written or through your lawyer. Enforce the temporary emergency restraining order. Expect the cops to show up to claim your kidnapped child (with your bitch crying "uncontrollably" in the back seat of one of the three cars that show up to arrest you hands on guns). Have the restraining order ready and your lawyer on speed dial. watch very disappointed simps and sjw female cops go away at 2am on a fucking work night.

The one advantage you have now is the initiative. You only barely have that because once she seeks to react the entire system begins to support her (pro bono lawyers, organizations, the law itself, simp cops). So strike hard and fast and without mercy.

This worked for me. Got full physical and joint legal. Had to compromise: got no child support from her.... Bfd.

oceansarevast · 2021-05-31T20:18:53+00:00

This can be salvaged. All you need is time and strategy. What are your goals ? Do you want 50/50 with your child ? First step is to control yourself and lay down your goals. Law, time, money, child. Give yourself a pet on back, nobody else will. Talk to a lawyer, what is the law in your state. Spend as much time with your child and document it. Morning, play and brush teeth, prepare for daycare or school. If possible bring and pick your child. Evening same same, play, spend time. Take pictures. Bring the child to the doctor and dentist, just a general checkup. Pay and document. Take pictures. Have any weapons in the house, get rid of them. Drink or use...get rid of it. Take pictures of the house, show no alcohol in the fridge, shelves, etc. Buy a commercial well being checkup, they check blood, health, lifestyle, problems. Proof you are healthy and pro active, free of drugs and alcohol. Weekend, spend it with your child. Participate in group sport. People see you healthy and participating. Install a 24 hour voice recorder on your phone, check quality and bitrate. Check if the audio is decent and good. Record yourself. Store offline on a portable drive. You are not allowed to record others, but you are allowed to record yourself. What did you say mam...no this audio proofs we did not argue or fight. All quiet at the home front. Establish yourself as an decent well caring, indispensable parent. Stop having sex with the Miss. If possible sleep in a separate room. Say you need time to work on yourself. Jerk off and don't be shy. Steer clear from other women. Study or improve your professional skill. Work out and adjust your diet to a healthy one. Drink a lot of water. Don't ever leave the house and move somewhere else. The law will interpret this that the family home is the home of the Miss and child. DON'T DO IT. Save money in cash and give it to a person you trust. You gonna need cash in case of emergency. If your lawyer sounds like shit, it probably is, find another one, this is cold blooded survival. The Miss will complain, but your inner peace will keep you on track. Don't argue. Say it is part of your new life philosophy. When all is in place pull the plug and steer for 50/50. This will take you at least 12 months. Don't loose patience. Remind yourself of the nightmare to come if you don't. Not convinced, look online for the worst divorce stories and keep reading them till you get sick of it. This is a war and you need to win it You got a gun in your hand, your miss has a machine gun with grenade launcher. Many countries thought they could win, but history has shown that strategy takes them all. Good luck.

Thinkingman21 · 2021-05-31T20:31:22+00:00

YouTube " PreDivorce mentality" from Terrence Popp. He has save 371 lives and counting as a mgtow. Be nearly wacked himself as an airborne ranger special forces 33 yr veteran.

Get a diary and write your feelings to your kid. She will get custody, you will get a shiit job before divorce to lower child support, join AA and gambling help one year before you file for divorce and stack as much cash as you can into a shoe box you leave at your brother's place. Aim the marriage decline lead you to gamble and drink. Less divorce settlement.

The system will defeat you and she will win the kid, but if you write in the diary each month about your continued efforts to be a family, and let the kid know at 18 you have a present for them, then you can win then kid back forever and isolate the FemiC#nt wife for life condemning her to pills and depression and the system to more debt for freeing her in the first place.

PreDivorce mentality. Prepare for war. Don't off yourself. Loose battles win the war, and then let her know how Hitler failed in last month's of the war: incompetence, hatred and isolation.

alienmuseum · 2021-06-01T00:53:47+00:00

While you still have your sanity, you should prepare the paper work. Things won't get better. It's like a switch in their brain that goes, "phew marriage done! time to be a giant cunt to the husband." You're in the millennial bracket. There's an article I read a few days ago that stated that this age group is experiencing the highest divorce rate right now.

xmetalmanx013 · 2021-06-01T12:57:12+00:00

Start stashing cash and don’t tell anyone about it. An easy way is to withdrawal 100$ or so at the grocery store every time you go. It will show up on your statement as groceries. Another good way is to develop a “gambling problem.” Go to the casino and play a few slots or cards just to be seen there on camera and withdrawal the money from their atm. Then take it and stash it somewhere. The less she thinks you have, the less she and daddy government can take from you.

Title	Finding the courage to get a divorce before things get worse
Author	Tasty-Dig-5524
Upvotes	62
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Date	May 31, 2021 11:42 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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