I am done

wmnarevl · 2019-09-19T14:40:27+00:00

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MuleFool42 · 2019-09-19T14:43:10+00:00

The whole crying act is just another form of manipulation. She can't be an adult and get into a disagreement? Seriously, that is the worst part of your story.

Whenever a gf cranks up the water works I get angry. It's a low blow. Get out. If you're going to date, date adults, not children.

Good luck.

wmnarevl · 2019-09-19T14:23:00+00:00

Get the fuck out of there before she makes a phone call and ruins your life. I have been through it personally and I can promise you this isn't worth it. No goddamn pussy is worth losing your freedom. I hope you listen and either leave or kick this bitch the fuck out, she's gonna wreck you if you don't. Also that little show for the neighbors? Guess what, they can call too. Don't be stupid, get the fuck out now and let things cool down before you do anything else. If you don't protect you no one will.

krusty_fat · 2019-09-19T14:36:08+00:00

That's a shit test. Regain your freedom brother.

betterforitall · 2019-09-19T15:00:40+00:00

Got my upvote on the "getting out".

thenotoriousdougie · 2019-09-19T15:17:04+00:00

Make 100% certain you record every conversation from now on. Especially make certain you record the conversation you have when you dump her. Copy it to a cloud server. Amazon has a variety of small voice recorders available for around $20. Probably get a couple of them just for good measure. Don’t use your phone, they’re wise to that shit, but they won’t think more than one step ahead because they seldom have to do that.

You_reALittleBitch · 2019-09-19T15:36:54+00:00

Sounds like there's a seven letter word you need... Starts with a 'd', ends with an 'e', and has "ivorc" in the middle

TheObelisk · 2019-09-19T15:34:07+00:00

What's your living situation?

Cizzar · 2019-09-19T17:26:26+00:00

Let her cool down a bit and then you should fake an apology, tell her you're sorry for overreacting (blame something else for it, stress, a bad day, whatever bs women will tell you when they "apologize") and then do what you wrote, bide your time and leave at the earliest opportunity because mad women will do even more irrational shit which can be anything from ignoring you to cutting your balls off while you sleep ...

Fedor_Fedorov · 2019-09-19T14:58:01+00:00

Kick her to the curb and enjoy your newfound freedom.

[deleted] · 2019-09-19T15:58:36+00:00

I'd never keep something that made my life harder.

Banned_For_Opinion · 2019-09-19T19:53:54+00:00

My ex would consistently get herself dinner before i got home from work with zero thought about what I want. She also forgot my birthday and did nothing to make up for it. All they care about is themselves.

[deleted] · 2019-09-20T03:17:18+00:00

It's a power game: Dominance by defiance: she will do the opposite of what you ask her to do. And then during the drama she will always try to come up ahead and you be the bad guy.

Added bonus: dama for drama's sake.

Gulleygrim · 2019-09-19T19:03:38+00:00

Leave now. Waiting is only going to increase the potential for shit to go sour. Record everything in the process of leaving her. She’s probably going to go crazy, so CYA (cover your ass). Everyday that does by is going to be worse and worse. Take it from me, my ex-wife has tried to have me arrested, never lets me see my kid, goes ballistic all the time and is just genuinely crazy. Sometimes I sit at home wondering if the cops will knock on my door because she hit herself or some shit and said I did it. Actively trying to leave my city, but finances are preventing me.

DashingWolf · 2019-09-20T00:29:38+00:00

Ahh the classic public "Victim Act Game" or as I like to call it VAG. Yep, been there. You are a utility to her, like pocket pet.

AdrenalineJunkySloth · 2019-09-19T19:07:06+00:00

I completely understand my man. It's simple, you asked her to get something, she said she would, so you waited for it (because you trust and believe her). She failed you, let you down, because she did NOT do what she said she would do.

This is disrespectful to you because she's assuming your circumstance and putting her needs first. At least she can give you a phone call and say, "Do you need it right now? is it okay if I get it later when I leave to pick up something? It's along the way and more convenient. If you need it now I'll get it for you"

I'm sure if she had just considered you for one second and communicated with you like that you'd be fine. Am I wrong?

But she assumed your circumstance and put your needs in the backseat. Saying, "you don't need it now" is completely irrelevant. She said she would and that's what she should have done, no questions asked. Debate over.

Her saying, "I deserve more than to be treated like this" is again, her playing the victim card and being selfish. What about you?! Do you deserve to be treated like this?! She said she'll do something for you and she didn't follow through. That's okay? Oh, let's just shrug it off like nothing happened? You can't be mad or sad? But because she didn't follow through with her words now it's HER that's "deserves better?"

Girls do this ALL THE FUCKING TIME. They don't give a fuck. And yes, she'll always say and believe that other people like and understand her. Of course, they don't live with her... all the times they interact or see her she chooses what to tell them and how to act around them. They know her surface, her public persona. It's 100% different when you live with someone or have been with someone for months. Seeing and understand the good AND the bad of someone is different than what friends see and get. Same with coworkers. This is why girls ALWAYS say that you don't understand them but all their friends and coworkers do. Well... it's because she made it that way... then she blames you for it?! It's just victim mentality combined with delusional.

Even if you say, "okay, you're right" and then tell her that's why you have other girls you talk to because they "understand" you she'll flip shit. She'll be mad and accuse you of all sorts of shit when she is blatantly doing the exact same thing and think it's justified.

I've been through this and see it over and over in many relationships. I've been saying it time and time again:

"It's okay if you're sad, neglected, and unhappy. It's only a problem when SHE is sad, neglected, and unhappy"

I understand your pain. Keep strong brotha.

CastandRefused · 2019-09-20T00:15:05+00:00

I realized awhile ago that women do not "love" on the same level or same way we do. They don't put in the same effort, such as buying gifts, showing affection, being kind, etc. It's depressing as hell until you stop caring about it. Move on, women ain't shit, enjoy life and freedom.

BigBadBoomchakka · 2019-09-20T03:42:10+00:00

They think they are entitled to countermand our life decisions “ you don’t need that”

MrMagtow · 2019-09-20T04:30:58+00:00

Just to point out - she wouldn't be winding you up like this - unless her backup-man had opened the door to her monkey-branching.

She's already 10 steps ahead of you.

inushishi_no_kaze · 2019-09-20T05:50:25+00:00

There was a reason why in the past they trained girls to be wives.

TigPlaze · 2019-09-19T21:41:30+00:00

JGAD

arapaima12345 · 2019-09-19T21:57:01+00:00

Are you paying for all of that? Because if you are also financially supporting her it's time to run, man.

Evanje53 · 2019-09-19T23:04:05+00:00

sorry dude, my gf always comes through for me in that dept. and in many other ways. Dont give up, just try again. or its ok to be on your own for a while to do whatever makes you happy. best of luck bro.

PM_Me_Gnome_Pics · 2019-09-19T16:08:25+00:00

why didn't you go get it yourself?

why are you being so hard on her for forgetting something?

I'm honestly confused as hell. if that's such a big deal then I'm sorry but you're the issue, not her. chill out.

Title	I am done
Author	wmnarevl
Upvotes	196
Comments	63
Date	September 19, 2019 2:16 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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