I got cheated on again.

NathanHollister · 2019-01-25T15:32:35+00:00

TL:DR man- Don't get into relationships, can't get cheated on

Farhandlir · 2019-01-25T15:34:47+00:00

I don't feel sorry for you, if you came to this community before you knew the risks yet you chose to ignore our warnings and give it a try. Count yourself lucky that she didn't get pregnant with Chad's kid and force you to pay for it. AWALT, repeat after me, there are no exceptions. You'll get burned again until you finally learn. Are you MGTOW or what? Go your own way or get burnt.

DangZagnut · 2019-01-25T15:30:23+00:00

My sympathies. Being pilled can be a painful experience.

CfromCA · 2019-01-25T16:13:35+00:00

You sound super blue pilled and, sorry, beta.

Marque01 · 2019-01-25T16:04:19+00:00

Get a silicone doll

Once you go plastic, the sex is fantastic :)

ransay3277 · 2019-01-25T15:33:33+00:00

Sorry to hear it bro. Not gonna rail on you though. Just step back, take a breath and move on. Remember... A relationship is controlled by who cares the least.

Older_Miggy · 2019-01-25T16:51:13+00:00

Quit poking the bear, that's what you do.

And if you fall for it again, don't bother us about it. You were warned.

DonnegalBreeze · 2019-01-25T17:08:35+00:00

Who the fuck was this girl anyway? You had to do all the talking, paying, taking out, setting up... she's nothing to worry about.

HipsterNgariman · 2019-01-25T16:21:40+00:00

I know how you feel. The idea of the perfect steady life with the loving wife, kid playing with his schoolmates in the backyard with the dog. That loving wife you chased after in high school, rose-tinted face full of shyness when you would approach her for a kiss, hugging her suede jacket tight.

We have to admit heaven doesn't exist. We can believe it - but not so experiencing it. But I would not consider your story sad : you're alive, standing on your feet, spent a few hundreds to hang with her until she went out with Chad instead. You haven't lost your job or got any STD. I would say it's not terrible, and the red pill rage will fade out. It was just a lesson. Learn from your mistakes and go your own way.

I don't think being single forever as a counter strike from gynocentrism is a sad and lonely way of life : it makes me free. That's something less to care about ! And if someone asks you why you're not in a relationship : "because I don't give a shit" is the real answer. If a woman is running after you, feel free to pump and dump. But don't run after somebody else, or you'll simply collide with Briffault's law.

VenetianCares · 2019-01-25T16:58:50+00:00

took me 35 years to fully let go. it takes time. go slow. I am not a low value man. i was pretty successful with women. didn't matter, still the same awalt shit dude. just maybe a bit more peace and sex. but it never lasts. I realized eventually that i had given so much emotionally, fiscally, in time, and true effort and love, only to never truly be cared or respected for. I used to think it was me. so i improved my life, my health, my status, didn't matter. you cannot satiate a beast whose appetite is insatiable. Brad Pitt couldn't, so yeah, neither can you.

Aza383 · 2019-01-25T18:17:10+00:00

If you are always initiating she isnt that into you.

TempleOfIron · 2019-01-25T18:19:01+00:00

The sooner you start to hate her. The easier it will be to move on.

imlurkingdontmindme · 2019-01-25T21:36:07+00:00

Firstly, while I do think this is a hurt you left yourself vulnerable to, I also do hope you can recover and move on, OP.

Some in this subreddit draw validation from examples of MGTOW philosophy being proven correct, but that often means a man was betrayed. That is always a tragedy.

I think that, for people like you who are looking for the NAWALT unicorn, you have to be aware that there is no such thing as a soulmate. There is no one out there who is perfectly tailored for your affection, because everyone loves their own life. The next best thing to a soulmate would be someone “close enough,” who would be a person you mostly get along with.

Therefore, every relationship that exists is built on compromise. Think of it as a business deal, and both sides have expectations (said and unsaid) the other party should fulfill. Both sides haggle and try to reach an agreement, oftentimes sacrificing their expectations for something less, if anything at all. The “trust” in a relationship is the trust of conduct, that those involved would abide by the contract.

Now, the point I think you need to understand is that the “contract” most men have either conflict with what women want nowadays, or are dumb.

Loyalty gets in the way of women’s exploratory desires. It also means she’ll put you above everyone else she knows — fat chance of that.

Supportive means women will invest time into your own interests. Modern women, I feel, possess a kind of self-obsession that borders on narcissism, fueled by social media. You will not find support from these women.

Innocence means she cannot have a meaningful life until she meets you. Simply not a well thought want, if you ask me.

And being sweet and loving basically means she’s a cardboard cut-out of a person; if she can’t get upset or experience her own feelings then she’s mentally disabled.

I get it — have a companion you can spend your life makes you feel as if your life has meaning, because you have a physical being who directly benefits from your pursuit of success. And having someone you can be intimate with means you have value as a man.

But, again, there is a lot of rose-tinted coloring in the way we look at the ideal relationship. Even couples who do well sacrifice a lot to maintain their relationship.

I know these words won’t make you happier or fix your longing. I do hope it gets you to consider what you’re doing with some self-awareness.

Take care.

FunkyCannaHigh · 2019-01-26T05:59:15+00:00

What you want vs. how society really is....

Guess what wins?

Society.

Yeah, it sucks, yeah some guys like myself would date and marry if it was like the 1920's, but it's not. That white picket fence with 3 kids will not happen.

You keep putting your hand into a roaring fire and then complain that you were burned. Then you jump into a sub saying you wish fire was not hot.

Well fire is hot no matter what you wish it to be.

Women in this generation are not marriage material....no matter how badly you want it or wish for it.

I am sorry man, I wish this was not true but it is. You unplugged from the matrix and now you want back in. Ignorance is bliss and all that.....

Listen, if you really want to be married shrink your vulnerability surface. Buy a house first in your name, a car, etc. Maybe even transfer the house/car to your parents name. When you find that one in a million woman that wants to be your wife have her sign a prenup. It is not water tight but it's better than nothing. You will still have to pay child support when she gets tired of sleeping with you but she might not be able to take your car/home.

I don't know what you expect us to say or do? You argue that it is depressing and that some woman out there has to be different. Then in the same breath you admit you are getting used and dumped. We have no magical cures or potions my friend. If you truly believe a woman out there exists like the one you describe I say go for it! Keep dating!

You should go your own way no matter what anyone says. If being married and having kids is the only way you will be happy, do it. You need to live the life that makes you happy.

UserName3267 · 2019-01-25T15:29:12+00:00

Why do you trust a female co worker to tell you the truth?

GFitness97 · 2019-01-25T15:36:33+00:00

You fucked up when you told her your vulnerabilities. It does suck, but women don’t care about your vulnerabilities. Their reaction isn’t “oh he’s so sensitive and trusts me deeply to tell me,” instead, they think that you’re weak. In my experience, its only been about their emotional issues, and the minute you tell them yours, they either tune out if they’re with you in person or think you’re weak.

JMD173 · 2019-01-25T17:34:26+00:00

I also woke up at 25 after being friend zoned for being a nice guy gentlemen. Raised by a single mother and beta male provider step dad. My family is very traditional as well, my cousin who is my same age got married last year.

You need to keep de-programming. I've been doing it for a year now. I'm also very tempted to start sleeping with girls as I am in college for 2 more years, and get tons of choosing signals. But I also don't trust myself yet to not get attached so I've been avoiding them. This is just the reality of our generation bro.

The best thing you can do is cut off your need for female validation/relationships, and work on yourself. Build up your masculine frame. You were probably drying up the pussy by saying goodnight and all the bs. How long were you even dating that chick, and did you even bang her? Trust me, I wish we could be nice and genuine, but that's not how it works anymore. The girl I would consider a "unicorn" who friend zoned me a year ago, randomly hit me up last month. Guess what I did? Ignored her. Never be their plan B, no matter who they are. Respect YOURSELF. Delete your social media if you have it. It helps tremendously.

Make yourself the catch. Make her work for you. It's fucking hard with all the options women have, but Either way your bettering and investing in yourself. And like the other guys said, don't treat it like your in a relationship.

Good luck, stay strong.

rejac218 · 2019-01-26T02:58:34+00:00

Notice how Chad didn't jump through any of these hoops. Live and learn. Don't trust a one of them.

Gamersparadise4 · 2019-01-26T12:05:43+00:00

You should learn teachings of Jesus Christ.

Cestus_Saphrax · 2019-01-26T13:30:16+00:00

One question: How many field tests do you still need to recognize to GYOW ?

I hope you learned you lesson this time

Hswghost · 2019-01-27T04:12:15+00:00

Time to start digesting them black pills man. The best advice I've received was from a friend back in high school. He said to me, "No one gives a shit about you, except you. Look out for #1 always."

If they arent inviting themselves over to your house on their own accord they dont like you like that. GYOW unless you enjoy being manipulated. If so this is the wrong sub.

Title	I got cheated on again.
Author	techtimee
Upvotes	34
Comments	72
Date	January 25, 2019 3:20 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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