Can't get over her?

dyinganimal · 2020-09-12T02:51:38+00:00

You don't miss that person. You miss the person you thought they were.

alphaonthecomeup · 2020-09-12T07:24:25+00:00

Dude I was that way after I split up with my ex. For years I’d have these times where I’d miss her and fantasize about what she’s as like.. then when things settled down enough for me to hang out with her years later, I was like “what the fuck is wrong with you, me? You were obsessing over this?”

Radio_Pushka_KRUSS · 2020-09-12T04:27:08+00:00

just think about it this way: there are 40 year old virgins out there, it could have gone much worse. Everyone thinks I am a chad but I never had a girlfriend, I even tried asking out and just got used. I quit with that stuff afterwards. You’re lucky to even have had one. I hope this makes you feel better.

oushkul · 2020-09-12T09:47:00+00:00

I believe it is more that you miss the person you were when you were with the person you believed them to be.

Subtle difference, but what you miss was within yourself and you can have that back any time you want, with our without another.

Philosophipster · 2020-09-12T10:28:07+00:00

Yeah man, its not about getting over her. It’s about getting over oneself. And recognising that you’re telling yourself a story... with an unhappy ending. Step 1 of many.

Grave_Heresy · 2020-09-12T21:25:39+00:00

She isn't yours, it's just your turn.

jaihind123456 · 2020-09-12T10:18:03+00:00

Depending on why u broke up, its the sudden or forced break up of a family, a dream or the memory of a nice future. If it got to the point of breakup, something big was missing already... its tough but everyone says it takes time and patience

Rocco-AT · 2020-09-12T11:23:14+00:00

Thank you...I needed to see this

snowen776 · 2020-09-12T11:34:10+00:00

Remember the bad times not only the good ones.

simpoukos · 2020-09-12T13:51:53+00:00

Amen to that brother. Dont be attached to a phase that passed you by, bros.

THEOPINIONPLACE · 2020-09-13T03:39:39+00:00

Relationships are like trading you have to have an exit strategy.

2020-09-13T04:48:27+00:00

Yes THIS! She never existed. What you are trying to get past isn’t a real person, it’s an idea that you created in your own mind. Focus instead on what you know is actually real.

2020-09-12T05:43:14+00:00

ScoutG · 2020-09-12T20:23:42+00:00

A lot of people fall in love with someone else’s potential, and that can keep us in relationships longer than we should be.

TeddyMGTOW · 2020-09-12T21:15:40+00:00

I like outside the box thinking.

A Youtuber had a friend who could not get over a ex.

He told the guy to wack off while thinking of her. Over and over.

Can't explain the logic but he said it worked.

I;m sure I will get some interesting replies on this one...

Asturias369 · 2020-09-12T21:24:43+00:00

I want to add that some brothes also don't realise that they are actually missing the precious memory ..before the saw how she really was - note that in your head/mind.

Helped me tons of moments when I was thinking about the person, clarity then hit me and it's easier not think about a potential future with her becease you now know.....the cake is a fuu lie xD

Perhaps weird, but just dropping it, hopefully it may be of help - stay safe brothers, greetings from Netherlands!

Scantraxx12 · 2020-09-12T22:18:33+00:00

I’ve thought about this the past week....Why does my mind often wander and think of an ex or a possible relationships with some other girls I met. It would always switch up week to week and I think I have finally came to a conclusion.

There are many processes involved in the brain and a lot of thinking about an ex has to do with biology and successful sexual relationships. Your brain and body wants to reproduce and it brings the thought of the other person in mind to fulfill the sexual reproduction.

Even though that person may be bad for you in every way, the brain and body don’t care. It only thinks for itself and how it can reproduce hence the thoughts about a previous lover.

If your a guy and you have this, think about women and their brain. They must got crazy thinking about an ex....

LiveTheTruth321 · 2020-09-12T22:31:54+00:00

Give it time

Edit: I just saw this

https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW2/comments/ir67b8/two_simple_steps_to_get_over_her/

2020-09-13T08:56:07+00:00

I don’t know about you, but when you put it this way it sounds as if the kinds of relationships you can have are only with someone you imagined.

That unsettles me quite a bit

Title	Can't get over her?
Author	0LightYagami0
Upvotes	1
Comments	39
Date	September 12, 2020 2:26 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW2
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