Need Final Boss Help

VindictivePrune · 2020-12-27T04:19:26+00:00

Sounds like you need a hobby mate. Find something you enjoy that while occupy your time and thoughts, or multiple things. For me mountain biking. Camping, dirt biking, skiing, and video games really do the trick

slamdunktiger86 · 2020-12-27T04:28:43+00:00

Damn bro.

You need some Jiu Jitsu, a squat rack and a little bit of weed, maybe edibles.

Stay on your purpose.

DirtyPartyMan · 2020-12-27T04:47:14+00:00

1.) A habit needs 30 days of continual repetition to solidify. Reprogram your mind. Ask yourself: “Do I need this drink? Will it help me move forward or will it set me back? Is this bottle worth my progress?”

2.) You focus on jealousy because you have yet to find Your Personal Purpose. Believe me when I tell you: Once our male minds find OUR purpose (whatever it may be that resonates with our souls) everything else becomes a distraction from that fulfillment. Find your purpose. You’re standing at the edge of Victory. Now is your dark hour. Keep Going!

cleats4u · 2020-12-27T08:42:22+00:00

You have become addicted to alcohol, no different than a heroin addict and it gets worse over time as your tolerance for it builds up. The minute you drink to get drunk you crossed the line into addiction. I was an alcoholic from my first drink. Then the drunks kept getting closer together and I tried to control it for years before I gave it up. You will probably notice when you start comparing yourself to those guys with those women... you feel less than them and they are shit. It makes you want to drink to feel better doesn't it? Alcoholism is fueled by negative thinking about yourself and others. By the way, pussy was your first addiction, it's biologically programmed into you. Your suffering withdrawal from two addictions when you don't drink or fuck.

--Reddit-Username2-- · 2020-12-27T11:49:31+00:00

Only solve one of these at a time. I’d start with the alcoholism...it’s bad for your physical, mental, and emotional health. All the rest will be easier. Good luck.

PuckeredA_hole · 2020-12-27T05:21:50+00:00

I discovered Cycling and got pretty into it, I realised I had to quit drinking because

that made me gain weight; requiring more effort for the same speed.
It meant I might miss cycling the next day if I felt too unwell or overslept
Recovery was longer so my gainz were at risk
I could save money to dedicate to upgrades or cycling trips

TLDR you need to find a hobby or a purpose, keep searching far and wide, you'll get there.

mebf109 · 2020-12-27T05:38:40+00:00

The drinking: Someday you will hurt somebody besides yourself. If you take that to heart, you will become afraid to drink like that.

The jealousy: You need to figure out who is the object of your jealousy.

NotherThrowaway284 · 2020-12-27T05:21:28+00:00

The trick is not to make yourself stop caring: the trick is to find something else you care about far more. Do that and everything will fall into place.

DispenserWizard · 2020-12-27T08:25:51+00:00

It's easier to say no to the first drink than it is to the second. It's easier to say no to the second than it is to the third.

I don't know if you have a workout routine but having some kind of personal development goals helps to organise your mind and energies which keeps you disciplined and makes it easier to choose something positive and uplifting instead of a debaucherous lifestyle.

You have to reinvent yourself a bit. The intensity of your focus in your teens and twenties towards being a rockstar is what you miss and what will keep drawing you back. All of your mind, body and energy would have had a mostly singular focus which gave your life purpose and meaning and now you are simply trying to abstain from it all without a new focus. It's not going to work. You need an equally intense and singular focus if you want a transformation to take place.

Monkhood isn't an end of itself it is a means to other ends. There isn't a final boss of monkhood anymore than there is a final boss of cleaning up your schedule to make room for the things you want. Monkhood is an enabling thing. When it comes to monkhood, you shouldn't think "I want to be a mgtow monk" you should think "monkhood would allow me to do(x,(y) and (z) and allow me to focus myself on striving with intensity."

Monkhood isn't for everyone at all times in their lives. You have to figure out where the benefits are for you and if it stops giving you benefits then you are not a failure for reassessing what you want or stopping. It has to be a conscious purposeful choice either way, and there isn't a right decision except for what works for your life.

You have to have some idea of what you want to be for yourself and then devote yourself accordingly.

Without a rekindled intense focus towards something new, you are just going to revert back continually to the intensity of the focus you had for years towards becoming a rockstar, and it will drag you down continually into the debauchery you are saying you no longer enjoy.

PretendDeparture7400 · 2020-12-27T09:37:59+00:00

I kinda feel like you need to start building that empire NOW. Once you've started on that road I think you'll have more purpose and not worry about the other things so much...

On a side note, you dont have to be abstainant, I dont think that's what this sub is about. As long as you dont become financially tied to a woman or let them in to your life than I think your good bro.

theaceupmysleeve · 2020-12-27T14:12:14+00:00

You form or find a hobby. Something you’re into and genuinely enjoy. Indulge in your hobby, read, exercise, learn a new skill etc. Point is - make your life about you instead of getting women. Those simps are suckers remember that.

Solo_and_Simple · 2020-12-27T14:39:56+00:00

The thing is, I dont want to do that anymore. I hate myself every time I wake up hungover like why did I do that? It has gone from every day to about 4 times a month, but I know when I start drinking the outcome, and I still put myself in that spot... Does anyone know why?? How can I motivate myself to not, as I do sometimes, but it still creeps up about 3-4 times a month.

Well, sure. That's a common sign of alcohol dependence. You keep doing something that gives you serious negative consequences. That's the nature of addiction. I worked with addicts and alcoholics my whole career (retired now), so to me, it's very clear and familiar. I also have my own history with it. To be clear, I'm not diagnosing you or suggesting you're an alcoholic. But you're describing behavior that is very common among, and characteristic of, people with alcohol problems.

Zealousideal-Arm904 · 2020-12-27T16:15:48+00:00

Or how about charity projects or volunteering to help those worse off

slamdunktiger86 · 2020-12-28T08:51:10+00:00

Remembered what I wanted to write initially, the other guy talking about hobbies not fixing everything got me going.

In essence, he’s wrong, hobbies are the gateway to freedom. They straddle the fine line between your comfort zone and the unknown. They are just comfortable enough that you can do them in your spare time, but not dangerous enough to kill you if things go wrong.

Roughly, you need three specific hobbies:

1) one to stay fit with (wealth and no health is worthless)

Ex. Jiu Jitsu, Weights, running

2) one to stay creative with

Ex. DJ + production, learning foreign languages, drawing

3) one to make money with

Ex. Options trading, precious metals rotations, tax lien investing

daniellederek · 2020-12-28T12:31:58+00:00

Umm OP, you don't have to tell the naked girls to put their clothes on. Fuck them if you want. On your own terms

But yes OP needs a mission statement and goals. His past decade was spent in the company of enablers. The rock n roll life work hard play harder just makes it far too easy to use substances.

Are the people you associate with the type who's first instant on meeting to offer a drink?

careverga420 · 2020-12-29T00:05:31+00:00

Find a Nice hobby like gaming or 3d printing

Occasion-Mental · 2020-12-29T08:07:08+00:00

The amount you are drinking is in that range that is high range binge drinking and the next level is alcoholism where it becomes every day drinking. Best to educate yourself first on what is safe drinking and work out where you are at in relation to that. I've only seem AA on TV shows, but i understand recognizing you have a problem is the first step and you may need help to battle this demon. There is no shame in asking for help, you have done it on this post, however there is also no shame in going to an AA meeting and seeking out those better able to help.

Solve the first problem may lead to helpful thinking space to solve problem #2...first things first, the drinking is your biggest problem.

Title	Need Final Boss Help
Author	jran_89
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Date	December 27, 2020 3:22 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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