Why does it seem like everyone is in a healthy relationship?

re_all · 2019-07-03T02:40:28+00:00

It’s what the media pushes.

It’s also what people only allow you to see.

Surely you know of pretense? Putting on a front?

If any part of a couple broadcasts that they are miserable, it reflects poorly upon themselves....

Vanity.... and Pride....

What insignificant notions.

razenha · 2019-07-03T13:49:57+00:00

You are clearly not paying attention.

Hodgekin · 2019-07-03T13:50:34+00:00

Reading the comments here and I would agree that media portrays the extreme ends of reality. If the average relationship is unhappy, then the extremes would be very good (like a couple married for 50 years and love each other) or very very bad (like murder or domestic violence). The stuff in between aren't as interesting to everyday people and thus won't generate views (sales/ad dollars).

If you're talking about real life friends/family, it then depends. Since you choose who you associate with, you may be choosing to associate with healthy/good people.

quickGunShoot · 2019-07-03T15:23:30+00:00

All that glitters is not gold

Thank_You_But_No · 2019-07-03T16:18:32+00:00

I think determining what's a "good" or "bad" relationship is pretty subjective.

If you're more woke, you have a different perspective than someone who is happy just being able to say they're in a relationship.

On some level in our society, being with someone sends the message "how crappy could I really be if someone can live with me?" From there, you can paint whatever picture you want on social media, at work, at church or with family.

Rock on. It's not for me, it's not for most of us here. But, if they're not complaining, or complaining in a way that says they're open to listening to the benefits of a more independent life, who cares? Live and let live.

If it's working for you, hallelujah! Like most here, you've probably paid dearly to get here.

For me, this group is a great reminder of the peace and happiness I can have without following the norm. It gives me ideas and motivation to nourish my independence.

Your mileage may vary, opinions change as circumstances do, and getting happy about yourself is truly priceless.

FindingKeeping · 2019-07-03T17:06:18+00:00

Not to the RedPills

TomahawkSuppository · 2019-07-03T17:39:31+00:00

They are not. Remember what you see of other people is but a very small slice in time. You have no idea what is going on when the doors are closed.

Frelsi_8899 · 2019-07-03T20:49:41+00:00

What you see in public only tells 1/2 the story. Simply put most people aren't airing their dirty laundry out on the streets.

So at a raw base level, most people simply don't fight in public.

But now add a bit of intelligence into the mix, and smart people realize a strong relationship is a symbol of power and respect. Take a politicians wife, for example, she seems to worship her husband. Backs him up, laughs at his jokes, tells everyone how great he is.

And you will find the same thing in your circles. The smarter or more respected people tend to project positive relationships.

So what you end up with is a situation where unless you have direct experience or inside knowledge and actually know the people, you cannot possibly make a judgment call if they're happy or not.

throwaway64688 · 2019-07-03T22:31:11+00:00

Is that what you're seeing? Maybe you're just in a predominantly healthy environment. If so, then that's a good thing. I wish I had that problem, lol. As it stands, from my childhood up to today I've seen nothing but dysfunctional and unhealthy relationships. That's because of the environment/community I grew up in is, sadly, dominated by dysfunction and broken homes. I think culture has a lot to do with that, though. Unfortunately, if you're White or Asian, you're statistically more likely to be exposed to positive examples of family and marriage and also more likely to have a healthy family and marriage life of your own.

My people? Sigh. Smh.

Let's have a moment of silence. -_-

jayjaytheejetplane · 2019-07-03T22:40:17+00:00

Really? I’m in my late twenties and I know a bunch of divorced men and sing mothers my age. Shits depressing.

Roastie_haiku_bot · 2019-07-04T01:04:19+00:00

Most married couples are coping HARD, bro. Get to know them, and you will see it is mostly 'hanging on in quiet desperation'.

FuqEnA · 2019-07-04T18:00:38+00:00

It has nothing to do with those other people. Its you reflecting your wants and desires onto them. Honestly, post divorce and red pill, I see couples who are miserable. Men being bossed around asking for permission, women getting fat and lazy. I don't agree at all that everyone is in a healthy relationship. They're fucking miserable but trying to put on a good poker face.

weusedtobeanonymous · 2019-07-08T19:24:50+00:00

Just like with everything (drugs, money, mental well being etc etc) people often hide the bad in their life.

user_miki · 2019-07-03T13:22:35+00:00

They fake happiness in front of camera or friends.

theanchorman05 · 2019-07-03T12:24:58+00:00

In my experience it has been the people who post the most about their relationships that are the ones that don't last long while the people who hardly post rarely break up.

GlobalAsshat · 2019-07-03T03:15:16+00:00

A lot of people are in healthy relationships, we are just the more boring, serious , less impulsive men. Even the ones in healthy relationships often end up divorced eventually though. Where I work they are happiest in late 20's and apathetic by the 40's. The more naturally outgoing they are the better they can handle all the activity, but usually as men age they cherish peace and quiet more and more.

Loban8990 · 2019-07-03T03:30:02+00:00

Because people on social media lie

30203forever · 2019-07-03T03:45:53+00:00

Here is a classic video by Colttaine on the subject: https://youtu.be/8byGFryWQRU

Yes, around 90% of "relationshits" are just that, pure crap.

DopaMonkey · 2019-07-03T04:21:39+00:00

Well my ex pretends like she is in healthy relationships, you see the "i love you, insert x", the pictures of them kissing, the "love of my life posts" and then a month later she moves on to a new boyfriend. At 17 i think she is up to 7 now? Haha, that is a constant reminder for me when i need it of what women are like.

Overall you could take a look at the % of children born out of wedlock and the % of divorces initiated by women to get a decent understanding - the men are happy with any relationship really, it's the women who are unhappy and taking almost twice the amount of antidepressants : " Women are nearly twice as likely as men to be taking the medications, the report found, with antidepressants used by 16.5 percent of females compared to just under 9 percent of males." Then you think "oh wow but isn't the male suicide rate much higher?" Yep, it is. Women just pretend to be fine and happy but many of them lead sad and miserable lives.

csehszlovakze · 2019-07-03T04:40:25+00:00

It seems like that because most people brag about the good and hide the bad.

avtarius · 2019-07-03T05:53:28+00:00

If by everyone you mean on Social Media, they only show the beautiful side. With enough experience you can tell who are truly happy anyway.

Myopic focus on positives is part of instinctive human denial. Another example of this is how successful businesses and their leaders are put on pedestals while information on all failures in the same arena/industry never gets mentioned enough for people to learn from.

limpanlimp · 2019-07-03T06:19:37+00:00

Society, media, parents, kindergarten and school preach what i call “the dream”.

The Dream is more then a healthy relationship, it’s having all the stuff...the house, cars, interesting hobbies, correct friends and beautiful well behaved children.

The only problem is that the Dream does not exist! But everybody pretends via social media that they have achieved it thus accelerating everybody’s need to have it. It’s a bad bad circle of depression, anger, anxiety and broken families.

369iLikeWineandDIne · 2019-07-03T06:53:07+00:00

I too see this

girlfriendisaliar · 2019-07-03T07:42:24+00:00

The same reason why every cashier, employee and corporate drone puts on a smile at work.

Slaves need to smile.

batfish55 · 2019-07-03T08:22:40+00:00

Nobody wants the world to know their relationship is shit. All you know is that things suck in your house, but the house across the street has cars parked in front of it, and a warm glow coming out. Wouldn't it be nice if that was your house?

How many people do you know who've gotten divorced when 'everything seemed fine'?

chakamaki · 2019-07-03T08:25:15+00:00

What I think is on Social media platforms you don’t want to put your pic/video of fighting or angriness.. infact you never take your picture when you are in negative emotions..

you take pics only when everything is great...

We never know what happened after that pic/video... but those things are still there floating giving impression to everyone that they are “Always” happy..

Second, people usually fights when behind the doors and not in front of everyone to save their dignity and a false “image” that they “think” they have in society... so they avoid fighting in public except extreme situations... hence we feel they are happy...

And main stream media want to promote their product /stories in ads and movies to”show” how much their products or stories are helpful to improve people’s life and relationships by showing “happy” couples....

The thing is we are in Matrix and this is obvious to hide the truth...

ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE THAT....

squiddy_s550gt · 2019-07-03T09:40:01+00:00

Eh, everyone thought me and my ex were happy. In reality we just kept our problems to ourselves

Next_Flow1 · 2019-07-03T10:49:37+00:00

I have tourette syndrome, seemingly a part of my life is knowing everyone's secret about what makes them miserable as they try to relate. There are a lot of people walking around you with heavy medical conditions that you don't know about. Similarly I hear of many struggles concerning ex wives and alimony etc. I promise there's no shortage of people suffering and hiding it from plain site to everyone except me, I don't why everyone feels like unloading on me within 6 hours of meeting me.

pangolin001 · 2019-07-03T11:30:51+00:00

We all have the proclivity for politeness, especially in public. It's like when you go to a job interview, you're going to put away negativity as much as possible and put on a "hi, how are you!" Face.

You understand there are numerous reasons for this of course but basically we're keeping our negativity to ourselves. No stranger wants to hear all about your shit.

So when you take your partner to a party (let's say), you're there for the good time. You're trying to put away the bad for your sake and everyone else's too. If you're a miserable prick at the party you won't be invited back and may have ruined it for someone else.

The extreme vast majority of people in relationships, out at a party, have something they'd like to complain about. Fuck, it was probably just 15 minutes before getting to the party late that she asked if she looked fat or he was dragging his ass not wanting to see her mother.

Lord_Teapot · 2019-07-03T12:02:21+00:00

most are lying/fooling themselves. divorce statistics and the number of single parent households tell the real story.

NYCCOOP · 2019-08-23T02:06:52+00:00

Believe everything you read on FB.

Title	Why does it seem like everyone is in a healthy relationship?
Author	CalmElk
Upvotes	43
Comments	47
Date	July 3, 2019 2:35 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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