I'm super new. From what I've read so far my story is run of the mill for the community so I won't dive too far into the details.

My story: Been married since 2018. Super long honeymoon phase, lasted two years until we got married. First year of marriage was a constant shit test because I constantly failed it. We about divorced over it then something clicked and it got better. Fast forward to 2021, I fell into a slump that I wasn't willing to climb out of. Due to circumstances with our home the wife and our new born moved 7hrs away to live with her mom till our home situation gets resolved.

About a month after she moved out I snapped out of my slump and realized my lazy and weak attitude was an issue. A few years ago I was some what acquainted with the community by way of interest in Jack Donovan's work. I started there to try to fix myself but that only helped with building a tribe of men.

What I found that really seemed to click for me was Rich Cooper's work. That obviously led to me reading Rollo's Rational Male and then Heartistes ect.

My initial response to reading and listening to the relevant podcasts was to try some of it. Unfortunately I've only got a weekend per month and phone calls. First thing I did was applied the 16 commandments of poon. Not playing by her rules shocked her the most. Previously I would have acquiesced to anything she asked of me and over the year I had given up on everything she had grown spiteful and demanding. The first time I tried it, she had the tone of anger and was demanding I washed my hands after smoking. Terrified inside but with a dead pan stare I just told her no. Her eyebrows raised and she tried to argue the point. I calmly brushed it off and said I'd get to it when i get to it.

After a few of those moments she almost seemed timid and sweet when requesting things from me. I was unsure of how to handle it and I ended up complying when she calmly asked. Everything started to slowly devolve towards what it was before.

Then it happened. She basically unilateral decided she wasn't coming home for a year and she was no longer coming to visit me. I was crushed and enraged at the same time. I completely stopped communicating with her because anything I had to say to her was gonna come from those emotions. I ended burying my nose in the books and began listening to Rian Stone. I eventually realized that Red Pill isn't to save or restore a relationship. It's living for the advancement of one's own growth. Although I had read it in all these books, it really took Rian Stone's Podcasts to beat it into my head. "You have to do it for you!"

So i sat down and really thought about it. What's best for me right now? First thing, better job. Left my dead end job for a place that has a vision I am ecstatic about and I'm tripling my income (still <100k) got a gym membership and put less focus on my wife.

I became more aloof and I initially over did dread. We sorta started talking after a couple weeks but I had little interest in talking about anything serious with her and I'd get off the phone shortly after she called. I also ignored most of her texts. Then it happened, she called me babbling and crying about how I have been acting. I didn't hold back, I told her how pissed I was about her excluding me from the decision on staying with her folks. She threatened not to come back if I didn't change and I told her that might be for the best. Instantly she back tracked and the conversation cooled. We talked it over and worked things out. Oddly enough, when the conversation got playful and fun she threw chore play at me. I already knew where that was headed but it just caught me off guard. I responded by overtly questioning it. "So you're saying... You get turned on by chores?" She dismissed the whole idea as soon as I said it.

Now I'm here, with my first Reddit Account writing my first post. I'm open to criticism and willing to experiment and try new things. I'm definitely deficient in a lot of areas but I'm developing a map and will post more later as to not make a long post longer. Feel free to ask for further details.

Thanks for taking the time to read this far.