Gentlemen: How do I respond to this shit test?

BluepillProfessor · 2015-06-13T14:48:00+00:00

IMHO this is not a Shit Test but a practical woman. Nude digital pics are forever and there is no reason in my mind a competent First Officer would not have the right of refusal on this one.

Perhaps you could suggest non-digital polaroid's and you keep the collection of pics with your sex toys?

DanG3 · 2015-06-13T13:31:26+00:00

By definition, a shit test is BEYOND a "reasonable request" or something that requires your creativity or resources to get past. So the question is, is her request reasonable - or would she be fine with Chad Thundercocks taking pics and video?

Marriedwithkidz · 2015-06-13T14:13:38+00:00

It's something I will never agree to do for my husband though he's never asked but that is my limit and I do everything else he wants. Not a shit test it's just a question of limits for me.

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RPSigmaStigma · 2015-06-13T16:28:52+00:00

I don't think there's a clear-cut red pill answer to this, but I'll relate my story regarding this, and hopefully it'll at least make for an interesting discussion.

10 years ago when I first met my now-wife, we were basically just fuck buddies. I was the fun party guy who DGAF about getting laid, would make crass dick jokes and all the girls would laugh, etc. When we started hooking up, it was very wild and crazy. She would spontaneously and enthusiastically blow me, ask me to cum on her, give me road head, etc, etc. And yes, on several occasions, she would break out her Polaroid camera and suggest we take dirty pics of and with each other. I have still have those pics in a shoebox in my closet.

Fast forward 8 years to henpecked, putz-shamed, beta-ized me, newly married, and our sex life had gotten dull, irregular and very much negotiated. Now, we never really had a dead bedroom because I always at least maintained just enough frame that she knew she wouldn't be able to get away with anything less than once a week sex without me starting to think something was up. She still knew, at some level, that I could probably get chicks if I wanted to, so I always had a baseline dread, but it had definitely waned significantly. But one day, thinking of ways to reignite the smoldering ashes of our sex life, I suggested taking pics and maybe even videos. Now, at this point, my frame was so weak, that I'm sure it came off in a very weak, beta tone. What do you think happened? She refused, obviously. In fact, she was kind of offended that I would even think she was "that kind of girl". The irony was completely lost on her.

Fast forward to today, and while I haven't brought it up, I'm fairly positive I could fairly easily pull off the "whip out the camera while we're fucking" move without her batting an eye. In fact, I think I'm going to try this later. :P

Anyway, I think my point is, while this might not technically be a "shit test", I do think it's very likely to at least be some kind of beta tell or maybe even a dash of putz shaming/poison drip.

Just my two cents. YMMV.

Edit: I was just reminded of something I read on TRP once: A girl will to anything for the right guy in the right place at the right time.

Mister_Shitlord_2U · 2015-06-13T17:35:54+00:00

Even if she wasn't worried about a ruined reputation and embarassment if it ever got to the internet, she may just be self conscious about her body. This isn't something every woman will do and I would respect her wishes on this one. That's just my opinion. Not a shit test to me.

London-Bananas · 2015-06-13T17:51:00+00:00

Not a shit test, but a smart woman.

It doesn't matter how much of a straight up guy you are and how you triple encript them, once nudes of her exist they are out of her control. And once nudes of her become public her reputation is trashed forever. Oh and your reputation too, because you'll be the cuck who's married to a women who's out there for the whole world to enjoy. So for her and your best interest, don't have digital nudes of each other. Maybe polaroid is an option like the other poster suggested.

Personally I have nudes of a lot of girls. Although I protect them and don't blackmail with them, they put me in a very strong position of power once she decides to screw me over in some way.

yoaked · 2015-06-13T17:52:24+00:00

probably a legitimate concern, but...

Also, for context. It's not like I do this all the time. Maybe 6 times a year.

perhaps your timing is off. best to do this A) when she is ovulating, and B) when you are on vacation or in a hotel... the former is the most important, the latter will help her relax and could put her in a better mood.

also, it helps if you have a higher SMV (aka lift) and she views you as Alpha. probably dead end if you are currently unplugging.

cholomite · 2015-06-13T18:00:31+00:00

I agree that this might not be a shit test, and what other posters have said about using dread is important. But here is what I would add.

I think you should make sure that you are able to create the right kind of mood to pull out a camera and start snapping sexy pics. It's a very fine line between hot sexy dominant photographer and unsure beta who just wants to jack off alone later. I'm not saying you're one or the other, but if you're good enough at fucking, have a high SMV, and can create that fun sexy dominant environment in the bedroom I think you'll get better results. Read sex god method if you haven't already. I don't think there's anything there about pics/videos, but you can use the skills from the book to set the right mood and make your gf more open to try things.

fnordsnord · 2015-06-13T18:17:00+00:00

This is not a shit test. This is a statement of her choice.

You will need to change her mind on this.

whinemoreplease · 2015-06-13T20:04:06+00:00

You have 4 posts. 3 of them have been asking everyone else to figure out how to handle your shit tests for you. You need to internalize what a shit test is, the common strategies to handle them, and test them out, and figure out what works.

You're responsible for living your own life and responding to your own shit tests. Not the community.

If you keep posting such low quality, low effort shit, I'm banning you.

If you want to post a field report detailing the circumstances surrounding the shit test and how you tried to deal with them, you're free to do that. No more of this 3 line question garbage.

Make your posts valuable to the person reading as well. Give value. Failing that, lurk more and read more.

Title	Gentlemen: How do I respond to this shit test?
Author	redpillworld
Upvotes	3
Comments	14
Date	June 13, 2015 1:13 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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