By way of background, I'm 49 and my wife of eleven years is 43. We have a deep, strong relationship with no fundamental issues. We're both successful, clean and attractive. I'm surely biased, but I feel that she is just as hot now as when we started to date almost 15 years ago: at 5'3" and a tight 108 pounds, has the body of an in-shape 25-year-old.

Although not aware of Red Pill concepts, my nature has been somewhat RP for most of our relationship. I've usually had the upper hand, focusing on my career (successful business exec making very good money) and doing an OK job staying in shape.

Thinking back over the last year, I now realize that I was starting to buy into the female-centric worldview way too much with our marriage. Thinking it would help, I started getting more into her activities, doing more to support her, subverting my own interests with the goal of benefiting our marriage. While she'd say that she appreciated this, sometimes her actions would betray her words. She'd occasionally shit on my support for her, and I could tell that her own SMV was high and maybe even rising, while mine was doing the usual slow decline that comes with age and less focus on keeping myself in shape.

I actually started reversing some of these trends many months ago: losing some weight (I'm now 6'1", 205, down from 220), upgrading my wardrobe. My actions were relatively small, however, until I came across RP. Reading the posts here, the blogs, some of the books, it really opened my eyes to the dynamic that my marriage was getting into. I didn't realize it, but my attempts to be directly supportive of my wife were actually undermining her respect for me. She wants me to be the successful alpha, not just her beta bux guy.

So I started to unplug very slowly by doing things like following the 2/3 golden ration of the 16 Commandments of Poon, being a little more emotionally unpredictable, allowing some very gentle and respectful dread by gaming other women, stepping up my workouts. It feels so right to be taking this approach, and much of this provided direct rewards to me and my own emotional state.

Although I am still very early in my RP journey, the results are already showing. She is going out of her way to get comfort from me. She started doing daily "pussy workouts"--15 minutes of Kegels--to enhance our sex. She is dressing better. She is stepping up her own workouts. She is initiating sex, something we've always done regularly (5+ times per week).

The icing on the cake was that a week ago she bought her own enema bulb to help her have more anal sex. I love anal for many reasons, including the taboo feeling of ownership when I'm balls deep in her ass. She likes it some, allowing it about once a month, but historically I had to press hard to get it. She's usually worried about it being messy, even though that is pretty much never an issue with her, fortunately--probably because she only does it when she is confident that it'll be clean.

Buying that enema bulb was a great step, I feel. She did it on her own with no prompting from me. She used it a couple of days ago, and we had terrific anal sex that night. She told that it was nice to do it without having to worry, and that it even seemed to open her up a little and make it easier for her to enjoy it.

I'm totally impressed with the insights and advice of the community here. While I was not as far off track like the deadbedroom crowd, RP has really helped us to tune up an already good marriage. I'm convicted to keep pushing to improve myself and my marriage through RP. Thank you to all who contribute to this community.