This should probably go on the OYS thread but I want this here for me to read months from now when I’m in a slump or things might not be going as well. Instead of it getting buried in the comments

I will continue to post and update on the OYS as I go.

background

Wanted to start by saying I was in a 5 year relationship. It was toxic. She did everything for me and I took advantage and became lazy as fuck. She always wanted to be with me. I didn’t want to be with her but I liked the value she offered so I stuck around. I cheated. I lied. I did heroin. I lied some more. It was just how I thought relationships “should be”

I read the red pill and been a part of this community for years. Being single I was good at. Being in a relationship, I was not. We lived together, the trust was so far from gone I had ruined it all with my constant relapses and drug abuse. Cheating and lying. It was too far gone.

So finally I grew some balls and I kicked her out for good this time (after leaving and coming back 5 times prior to).

After that time I read MAP. I put it into affect and stepped my life the FUCK UP on turbo mode.

I started with making a list of chores and tasks I needed to get done everyday. I deleted all my social media’s and wouldn’t take my boots off from work until I was done and ready to go to the gym. I kicked my heroin addiction and haven’t even thought about it since. (After years of relapses and abuse)

Where am I now

I have a new relationship and this time not only did I make sure I did it right. Holy fuck. I have never been in a relationship like this. The fact that she is “red pill woman” or very respective to red pill concepts or submissive. Whatever you want to call it. Makes things so much better.

I lead. She follows. She trust me with every decision. And I make them all. As I grow. I own my shit. I get hair done. She will get motivation off my actions. She supports everything I do. I mix both alpha and beta traits. I’d say 60/40. I created boundaries right off the bat. I laid out my goals and told her I’d like her on board but I’m doing this regardless. She is not only more than willing to follow. She tells me almost everyday she’s never been with a guy who does this shit. That I make it so easy. Anyway

My mission

This is what really nailed everything into place and got the fire in me going. I found my mission. After years of not having one or making on up. I found it. After getting sober. Things started to change for me. I got an opportunity to go to school for HVAC. Paid for. From a guy I always wanted to work for who was paying me a shit load of money to work for him as I went to school.

I will save the story but I didn’t jump right away out of fear. I had somethings going on with my current boss that made me afraid to leave the company I was working for. I finally said fuck living in fear and I made the leap.

Best choice of my life. I laid out all my goals. Daily. Short. Mid term. Long term. And I check them everyday. And try to do at least one thing on it. (Except my daily. I do them all)

Let me elaborate.

My mission has always been to start my own business. I got into hvac and love the fucking trades so much. I work on Saturdays just because I like it so much. My goal is to finish school. Coming out I will become the lead HVAC head for the current company I work for. Long time I will branch off and do my own thing with hvac.

I also want to own property. I will create a financial plan to start saving for my first house. Then eventually want to start flipping houses with my contracting knowledge. Along with a savings account for long term.

I want to be a father very badly one day. I have always wanted kids and will one day have my own when I feel the times right

I want to travel I will be planning a trip for this coming summer.

I want to start ju jistu I have a free month membership I’m going to begin to use after my move.

And Stay sober of course.

I will be posting on OYS of the wrongs. And things I need and want to fix along my journey

finances

This has been up until this point my weakest area. I caused my self so much debt because of my addiction. Credit card debt. Loans. Owing people money. Bills. Etc

Now I am in a position to fix this. My new job has almost tripled my yearly income. Along with this. I am moving into a buddies house next month. It will cut my rent in half. This is by far the most unideal situation for me. I hate living with other people but if I want to reach my financial goals this is the best and fastest way to do it.

  1. So one goal I have for this coming month is to move in there and create a financial budget plan to get my debt in order and save money

fitness

I work 6 days a work anywhere from 10-12 hours a day. I get home at about 7pm and any other year in my life I would come home and go on Facebook. Lay around and do nothing. Not anymore. I come home. I eat and I go right to the gym even if I don’t want to. Then I come home and crush the other stuff on my list.

I’ve realized anyone who says “I’m too busy to do X” is just full of fucking excuses. Or their time Management sucks. But it’s usually just laziness and excuses.

I take testosterone cut back on the tren . So I am already jacked. I’m usually the most jacked guy in the gym if not I’m close to it.

game

Game has always been my strongest point my whole life. I got the looks. I got the muscle. I got the tattoos. I got the confidence. I got it. I’ve laid in the triple digit N count. But with this new goal/mission oriented life style I am not around women often. I work in a trade with all men. Long hours. And then go about my routine after. Only female contact I get is with my woman and sights at the gym.

I still make it a point to talk to everyone when I’m around people but I have less change to flirt with woman like I used to to keep my game tip top. So I flirt with my girl. A lot.

I wanted to ask some of you. How do you keep your game tip top if you’re in a similar situation? Not around women often bc of work and other things? Just the wife??

She fucks and sucks me so much my dick hurts after I’m with her for a couple days. She’s so into me it’s crazy. The MAP really does work. I know it’s fresh still but this is the relationship that I want and always wanted. Let’s hope it continues.

mind/mental

I read everyday. I’m reading MMSLP now. And going to dig into some finance books after. I try tomorrow Meditate everyday for at least 10 mins.

I also will take time to myself to really see my goals. My mission. Where I want to go and think things through. I will think about decisions I have made. Or need to make. And break them down to assume I’m doing what’s in line with what I want.

value

I’m trying to give value to everyone. Whether it’s positive energy. Honest advice. Motivation. Leadership. Etc.

I’m trying to spread positive energy and stop complaining about the negative shit. Along with cutting it out of my life.

This is by far the best spot I have ever been in my entire life mentally. Drug free. I have a high that I have never had before from any drug and it’s fueled by my vision and mission. I feel unstoppable. I really do. I am working hard at everything I do. Everything.

my current relationship

I lead. She follows. Everything, down to the little shit I do in everyday life. It’s kind of cool to me. I plan shit for us. I fix things when they need to be fixed. I have a goal and I crush it. I make the decisions.

With all that she has started to set her own goals. And find motivation through me. I never knew a relationship could be like this. So for now I’m just going to enjoy the ride and as long as I’m happy and she keeps supporting and growing with me. I’m good.

It’s funny how much this shit works not only is she blown away by how I run things. She will tell me. You’re everything I didn’t know I wanted.

It goes to show me. Most men aren’t doing this shit we preach here. They aren’t going to the fullest. They aren’t leading. They’re lazy.

the good

I changed everything to get here. My job. My relationship. My living situation. My focus. My environment. My habits.

the bad/needs work

My finances.

My wardrobe could use a bit of an update. I dress nice but as I grow my clothes have gotten smaller. I could use a whole new wardrobe update as my finances grow.

STFU. My current relationship is honestly as good as it can get but I do realize I talk too much whether it’s about my feelings. My goals. Making sure she knows I’m not afraid to leave. My accomplishments. I get excited and I talk. I’ll going to try to stfu more and let things just happen.

Thank You

I been on this sub reading and putting things to action but I haven’t posted much on the married red pill as oppose to the main sub. Without this knowledge and guidance this life wouldn’t be possible for me. I wouldn’t even know this life could exist for me. A year ago I was relapsing from drugs. Lost on the verge of dying or overdosing.

Thank you all.

Edit: added my mission