The last year has been rocky but I'm seeing improvements in my marriage. I'm lifting heavy things. Taking the lead in family life. Being more decisive. As a result, I've seen more submissiveness on my wife's part. She's improving too. Sex is slowly coming around, but I've backed off almost entirely since we had our third boy only 7 weeks ago.

The area where my development is lacking is abundance mentality and outcome independence. While I'm better than before, I still need to work on this. What I realized is that I need an outlet to practice these concepts. And what I've found is that Tinder is perfect for this.

Now, I'm not cheating on my wife. I have no intention of cheating on my wife. But I find that I'm able to break down my Nice Guy tendencies and practice my IDGAF attitude with girls I match with on Tinder. I message them a few times, engage in some banter, then unmatch them. Then I use what I've learned with my wife.

Damn has this worked. I've learned how to subtly and overtly breach the topic of sex and tease her about it. I suggest previously unmentionable topics, like bjs, anal, threesomes, stripclubs, submissiveness, etc. But most importantly, I no longer care what happens as a result of bringing up the topic. She may shoot down most of it, but I don't care. Before with my wife, I was nervous about her reaction, but now I don't give a fuck about her reaction. And she's surprisingly ok with it now, and its desensitizing her to these things too. We've since introduced a vibrator and nipple play into our sex routine. But I never would have been able to do it until I first gained the confidence by practicing OI and AM on Tinder.

BTW, I've since closed my account but I'm glad I did it.

Now, let the bashing begin...