I had an incident at work, it was bad. Mrs new all about it.

I Came home in a really bad mood.

She struck...

"What happened today?" "Is everything gonna be okay?" "I told you, you should....." Blah blah blah, and on and on it went.

The models I used where:

Controlled anger- whinemoreplease

Showing emotions like a man- whinemoreplease

Ownership- MRP

Speak without speaking- hornsofapathy

I just stared at her. Not even at her, through her. My frame was 'this is a me problem. Shut your mouth.' Eventually she entered that frame.

Outcome independence- MRP

Silent treatment the whole night and next morning. I did me.

Oak- jack10

Fogging- WISNIFG

Broken record- WISNIFG

Came home, problem at work was resolved.

"So are you going to tell me what's going on at work" in a concerned slightly bratty tone.

"I know you are worried. It's dealt with".

"Are you sure"

"yeah, stop worrying, it's dealt with" this went on a couple more times.

"Okay my lord"

We cooked dinner together and had a fun evening doing whatever we wanted.

This is my first ever post here. I know it isn't thousands of words on why hypergamy is bad or why frame is the be all and end all. But it's what I can contribute to let all the people that came before me know that there notes were not lost on me. Am I perfect, no. Was this a perfect interaction, no. But with the tools that I've learned, my life experience and the shit ton of work I have put in over the last 4/5 years this is where I'm at! Thank you to everyone that left these notes here for me, they changed my life! And I know thank you isn't necessary, doing the work is. But thank you guys. I live my life for me and how I want. Time to get back to work!