Sexual Market Value (SMV)

What

The worth in the eyes of your woman as to your sexual attractiveness comparatively to other men. The basic standard that she is judging your fitness, attractiveness, and leadership. There are two kinds. The ones where you calculate by hand and this is called the SMV Value. The second kind is the one where she has judged you based on no controls, only experimental Chad's. This is called the Perceived SMV or PSMV for short.

Perceived SMV is merely what your wife is seeing and judging. Like many things she is not good at doing, this is not one of them. She see's you every day and is quite literally judging you constantly.

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When you take this assessment you need to be brutally honest with yourself. You must also be brutally honest to your mate. She is judging you in the harshest way possible so be fair, answer truthfully. It matters.

Your body will be one of the first thing a woman notices about you. You can look like a ripped jacked up body builder or a man who wrestles bears for a living. The one thing that you don't want to have is a dad bod or be grossly overweight. She wants to run her fingers over your hard body. She wants to feel like she is safe because she knows you can protect her and her offspring. A recent quote by Alana Massey "He made me feel safe not because he was gentle but because I knew he was capable of violence and cruelty that I was confident he would never direct at me." that pretty much sums it up.

Your clothes should be proper fitting. There is a great article here detailing how your clothes should fit if you work in an office. Always dress to impress your lady and especially other ladies. The days of lounging around on a sunday morning in ripped pajama bottoms and a wife beater need to come to an end. Look great. This also builds into the next part.

Your confidence is something else she is going to take into account. Alpha men are first and foremost comfortable with themselves. Failures are not losses to leaders of men. When you lose, don't lose the lesson. Everything is a learning experience. A confident man doesn't take women seriously, and they love this. Amused Mastery is probably the most effective pickup strategy when passing shit tests with a woman you just met. As you move into a relationship and onto marriage you should be moving onto Amused Mastery. Passing her fitness/shit tests are what's going to get you accepted as the leader of the family.

Your frame needs to be your frame. There is a reason it is the #1 Iron Rule. "Frame is everything. Always be aware of the subconscious balance of who’s frame in which you are operating. Always control the Frame, but resist giving the impression that you are. " Your women should be operating in your frame without even realizing it. Your wife doesn't want you to seek her permission or do the things the way she wants them done. She won't respect you for that.

Your alpha traits should focus on being the leader and taking charge with your family. This also means never apologize. Apologizing to your woman is weakness in her eyes. There was a point in my marriage where my wife would batter me with attacks until I apologized for the 90% lean beef and then use it as her reload to come back harder. Your woman will not respect you and she doesn't want you to either. You must convey sureness of self, proximal dominance, and charisma. Then finally to end with positive attitude and no matter how bad things are going you are managing to find joy in it.

What It Isn't

SMV is not merely the function result of the amount of women you are fucking. While many red pill sites describe it as such, it's just simply not applicable to the married man. You won the woman. You are fucking one woman the rest of your life.

SMV is not the end all be all of your measurement as a man in your wife's eyes.

Why You Need to Increase It

The first and foremost reason to increase SMV are tingles. Tingles are the raw subconscious generated lust. They dampen her panties when she sees you acting like a redpill man. They overcome her very thoughts and judgement. As also mentioned in MRP they are like heroin, and she will get her fix from you or someone else. When you can generate the tingles in your lady, it will open a whole new sexual world for you. Gone will be the duty sex and starfish. Keep in mind however, that starfish from some ladies is just because they dont know how to fuck. It's up to you to lead her, and when the tingles keep her vagina moist, she will do as you instruct.

You should be gaming your wife every single day. PUA with strange women and when you find ones that work, bring them home and use them on her. Practice your kino. As your SMV increases women will become more much responsive to your attention. When you have your frame structured well, practice in front of your wife.

Your rank in your male social circle is going to see a significant improvement. Making friends will be easier, especially beta friends who need a leader. Other friends will start respecting you, and even people you work with would rather associate to an attractive person than a betafat. When is the last time you saw a charismatic jacked man eating lunch by himself?

How do you increase your SMV?

Lifting. You are playing red pill if you are not lifting. You have to lift heavy ass weights, there is no other exercise that you can substitute. Already, so many posts on this lifting idea. Starting Strength, StrongLifts, etc.... The programs are free on the internet and merely requires just an hour or two of your day, three days a week. You can read, practice, etc.... but if you are not lifting do not bother to do any of it.

Reading. The sidebar books are the best bet. Tried and true methods, in plain english ready for your consumption. Take a book like No More Mister Nice Guy and read it all the way through one time. Then cherry pick some things from the book and try it out for size. Then start the book on page 1 and do every exercise in the book. Wash, rinse, and repeat for all the books. Especially on Kino and PUA.

Proper Attire. Dress to impress. Invest in some clothes, shop clearance racks, find a tailor/seamstress. Start looking good. It's the one thing you can do today for instant results tomorrow. I don't care where you work. Shined shoes, good dress clothes, if you are in business. If you are a blue collar construction guy then invest in some nice carhartt or some such and keep it looking good. Fit properly and make sure you look nice.

Displaying Alpha Traits. Start passing shit tests and comfort tests. Look like you have money even if you don't. Display power and dominance, but not overtly. Cool and confident in stressful situations. Stop immediately with the good listening skills, thoughtfulness, and compassion. NMMNG is the order of the day.

Become the Oak Tree. They bend in sway in the heaviest of storms, but stay firmly rooted in the ground. When her hamster goes full retard, and her world is crumbling around her, she needs someone who has their shit together. Your confidence will be the strength you need.

Benefits to you

  • Confidence will sky rocket
  • Your sexual intensity, quality, and quantity will increase proportionately.
  • One step further into your new alpha life
  • Increase your rank in the male heirachy

Benefits to your significant other

  • Tingles
  • Hypergamy is satisfied
  • Submissiveness/Willingness
  • Loyalty, as much as their can be
  • She will be much more satisfied with her mate choice

Example of your Perceived SMV being significantly Lower to your Wife's SMV

  • The worst situation you can be in, you are a 0 and she is a 20
  • No sex or worse, duty sex.
  • Hard no's almost constantly
  • Outright anger, insulting, and other bad behaviour to you and in front of others.
  • Shit tests are basically the norm of the day, there is no respect at all, possibly even contempt
  • Hypergamy, she is already branch swinging, and multiple affairs already in the pocket
  • You being the leader is laughable right to your face as she goes out "with friends"

Example of your Perceived SMV being the same or slightly lower

  • Not the best situation, but not the worst either, you are a 15 and she is 25
  • Sex life could be described as barely adequate
  • Hypergamy is being tested constantly, probably already had a secret affair but didnt keep it going
  • There is a lack of respect no matter how overt it may be, Shit tests are extremely common
  • She may accept you as the leader, but she is just waiting for you to slip

Example of your Perceived SMV being slightly higher

  • You are in the ideal "pocket" of SMV, as long as you trending right below significantly higher. You are a 19 and she is 30-35
  • Shit test every now and again, but mostly comfort tests
  • Sex is damned good and she is always willing.
  • Hypergamy is satisfied for now, but she is always testing, won't ever stop really, not entertaining affairs or other men
  • Women are probably checking you out , and this makes her tingle
  • She accepts you as the leader

Example of your Perceived SMV being significantly higher

  • The second worst situation you can be in, you are a 21 and she is a -4
  • Sex is anyway you want it, anytime you want it, on your terms
  • Hypergamy is totally satisfied and doesnt entertain fantasy's of affairs
  • Comfort tests are through the roof, and you have alot of work to do
  • She will be at the top of her game to keep you around, and you might need to ask yourself if you are going to stay around