Slow Divorce strategy

Moldy_Gecko · 2015-05-25T08:32:04+00:00

One thing I gotta ask, how long you known about TRP? I almost got divorced, papers signed, logistics talked out. I realized I practiced TRP wrong. We are good after 4 months. I actually started using TRP the right way.

BluepillProfessor · 2015-05-25T15:16:47+00:00

At MRP our goal is to save the marriage and if that is not possible, to prepare you for much better relationships in the future, it that is what you choose to pursue.

This marriage can still be saved if that is what you want. You are in the driver's seat and are in a position to set the terms- sex on demand, she follows your lead, whatever your terms.

A leader does not always just follow the intertia in one direction or another. A leader leads. Where are you leading? If it is to Divorce then "Slow Divorce" is like slowly pulling out a tooth. Bad idea. If it is to a better marriage, then set the reasonable boundaries now that you should have set years ago.

abdada · 2015-05-25T02:47:34+00:00

Ignore the legal crap for the week. Realize you'd divorced her morally and emotionally already.

Breathe the sweet and fresh air of mental and emotional freedom. Legal and financial freedom come in time.

Start your new live tomorrow. Suggest she move in with friends or family.

theultmatecad · 2015-05-25T13:54:50+00:00

Good luck. While it may be too late for TRP to help you with this particular relationship you can count on alot of.success with the future

turbosympathique · 2015-05-25T14:25:43+00:00

When there's a will there's a way.

You have two choice in-front of you. You will need to be really honest with yourself in order to make the right choice for you and your family.

What do you REALLY want? Yes it's possible to save your marriage, if you want to A lot of poster here have been in similar situation (Brink of divorce) most are still married and theirs marriage have improved drastically. (Mine included)

So my advise is the following:

While you make up your mind, continue to protect your asset and use this forum to improve yourself and your marriage. When you decide what you really want then you will be in a better position than you are today.

Take care.

putsch80 · 2015-05-25T04:16:34+00:00

Stop and think: why did she change her mind? She thought she would be better off without you, but then suddenly had a change of heart? What do you think you provide to her that she realized she needs? Whatever the answer, that's your most valuable resource to hoard and use as leverage in the divorce.

exbp · 2015-05-25T15:08:33+00:00

Ummm kids? Are these your kids or hers from a previous? Ages?

hypergamous · 2015-05-25T18:50:07+00:00

"I don't want a divorce but can't stay married." - that doesn't sound like you know what you want.

Before I divorced I knew in less than 3 days exactly what I wanted as an outcome. Ex was cheating and setting up an exit plan for alimony. Found out via her new phone and passwords. - Made the call to file and served in less than a week.

The more time you waiver around with your leadership, IMHO you are setting yourself up for a really crappy situation.

Personally, could have waited and left with a better financial situation. The focus was on cutting the cord as swift as possible.

Not letting there be time for all the drama and false accusations mount up once in-laws and bystanders get to listen to your wife and her version of your marriage.

It's really amazing what is said behind your back once divorce is even being contemplated.

Best of luck to you!

hlyfknsht · 2015-05-26T20:30:05+00:00

Assertive yes. However I would let her wear me down until I caved. So effectively not really. I am the one saying we either both commit to getting our shit fixed relationship wise or we split, and i m sticking to it. Its currently divorce chicken with both of us swearing we won't blink. She is gathering allies to support during this difficult time. I couldn't help but notice they are all divorced, mostly "single til death" types. Not a good sign.

Title	Slow Divorce strategy
Author	hlyfknsht
Upvotes	10
Comments	26
Date	May 25, 2015 2:36 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
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