Trying

Rolaid-Tommassi · 2022-07-17T09:20:28+00:00

People who love each other won't be embarrassed. Maybe talk to her first before you trot out the massive sex-toy though. Good luck mate. And good for you for being a devoted husband and father; God knows we get little enough credit for that.

empathylion · 2022-07-17T15:27:13+00:00

I think it's great that you want to reignite your sex life and remind your wife that you're still into her, but I don't think how you're planning to do it is a good idea.

You want her to know that you're into her ? Frankly there's no better way than to literally tell her and show it by actually spending the time with her .

Sex toys are a very personal item and if you bought anything that's for her, unless you 150% knows she wants it then I highly recommend you return it. These are toys that interact and often go into her body, she must be the one to green light it.

I think it COULD be a fun and intimate experience to shop for toys together but it could also be disastrous depending on what kinda toy you get. Together, I suggest you focus on partner toys, not individual toys like dildos unless you're very secure in your own package and your experience together in bed. Visit r/sextoys for a lot more advice on the topic. I've found it pretty helpful.

That aside, your work situation is probably really contributing to the low energy of your relationship. Chat with your wife about that. Just letting her know how you feel and hearing her out as well is what you've got to start with. Good luck

cgsur · 2022-07-17T17:04:20+00:00

In these days I find it helps for everyone in the family to have rights and duties.

For everyone to pull together.

It’s important that everyone gets some time, even if it’s to relax, that includes you, spouse and kids.

a-man-from-earth · 2022-07-18T08:28:15+00:00

So you work two full-time jobs. That can't be healthy.

What is your wife doing?

BlueDragonZombie · 2022-07-18T14:37:21+00:00

Based on some of the feedback here I talked to my wife before the stuff got here and kinda showed her what was coming rather than surprising her with it. It was uncomfortable for me for a minute but I think it had the right amount of laughter and light-heartedness, it felt like she was happy for my effort and when things come we will look at things and see if there's anything we want to try together. Feels like a positive direction. Thank you guys.

Title	Trying
Author	BlueDragonZombie
Upvotes	28
Comments	8
Date	July 17, 2022 5:35 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	/r/MenSupportMen
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