Female privilege

lanana · 2011-03-22T18:02:11+00:00

Ok, I'll probably get flamed for this, but I'll bite. This whole women have it so easy sentiment expressed by the over there and here is I think caused by the disconnect between what men imagine would happen and what actually does. I think guys that whey guys say this, they imagine that were the situations reversed, how awesome it must be to just sit back and get approached and hit on by young beautiful women all the time. In reality, since most normal people generally go to the bars to hang out with their friends, and don't go around hitting on every girl in sight, what you get it like 1% of the guys doing 90% of the hitting on women. And that small percent is the guys who have gotten rejected so many times that they don't care, it's just a numbers game to them, it's the guy who has hit on every other girl in the bar before he came to you, it's the old guy who's seen it all before and doesn't give a shit. They're persistent, they don't take a hint and you know you're just a game to them. So if by chance a nice, normal guy does approach, you can bet the 9 before you were like the above. Now I normally hang out in big mixed groups, but the few times I go out with just the girls, it is always like this. Seriously, the last time I went out with my two girlfriends to catch up (all of us in LTRs, so not interested in picking up guys) we got stuck spending 90% of our time in inane conversation with random guys rather than getting to enjoy each others company. And the pick up lines for the night were, "It's my birthday, can I make out with you?", "I just got out of prison", and some eastern European guy old enough to be my father trying to guess my ancestry. Now you may think that all women being blessed with social graces should be able to easily extricate herself from unwanted conversation. But for one, that’s not at all true, and I happen to be horribly socially awkward. And two, most of these types do not take subtle cues like looking away, short replies, or seeming uninterested, so anything short of a direct shut down does not work (and my inherent politeness and social awkwardness prevent me from going this route anyways.) Now I have no problem with interesting conversations with random strangers from time to time, but most of these end up being horribly boring and awkward and I would rather be spending the time with the friends I came with.

So the next time you think that women have it easy, think how it would be like if every time you went out to have a drink with your buddies and talk to each other, instead you are constantly interrupted by 40 year old cougars hitting on you and find yourself getting stuck in tedious conversations about her 5 cats.

philosarapter · 2011-03-22T18:10:26+00:00

I understand how this can be seen as female privilege, (hell I even wrote a long detailed rant about it before I deleted it.), but after further reading of his technique, he was walking up to girls, getting really close to them, turning them around physically and while staring straight at them starting talking to them. They felt trapped and cornered by a guy they didn't know and freaked out.

He was being uber-creepy.

NiceGuysSTFU · 2011-03-22T14:48:43+00:00

Sorry, but "Nice Guy" is not entitled to any woman's attention or affection. How the hell is this at all indicative of "female privilege?" Maybe he'd have better luck if he treated potential sex/romantic partners as people, not as "game."

Bobsutan · 2011-03-22T14:36:58+00:00

Could the OP comment on how the linked thread is related to female privilege?

Title	Female privilege
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	1
Comments	36
Date	March 22, 2011 2:03 PM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/g8xpa/female_privilege/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/MensRights/female-privilege.1041847 https://theredarchive.com/post/1041847

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