So I couldn’t post this in the ask men sub so I hope it can be forgiven that I ask in here.

So I’m a 19f and I was diagnosed with ptsd two years ago. I suffered mental and physical abuse as well as sexual abuse and rape. And my fiancé has struggled with helping me during a flashback. He tries so hard to do what he can but has told me that he feels helpless when he sees me like that.

I was never given any coping mechanisms or taught what to advise my fiancé to do when I’m having a flashback. So we both feel pretty helpless. So if anyone here can give me some tips of what he can try or how he can help, we would both really appreciate it. I’m sure there are plenty of men in here that probably have ptsd or maybe even a (ex)partner that has ptsd. If so, what did they do for you or what did you do for them? Thank you!