My Friend is getting married

HankSought · 2014-08-24T23:39:26+00:00

I don't agree with /u/Dixieduffy that you should suggest he get a prenup. Prenuptial agreements are commonly nullified in court for a variety of reasons. It's peace of mind for the couple but it is not a legal guarantee.

If you have concerns about his partner sit down with him and voice them. After that it's up to him; let him make his own life decisions, but support him along the way. His marriage may last, or it may fail. But you have to be there for him either way.

Dixieduffy · 2014-08-24T23:25:47+00:00

Convince him to get a prenup if he won't listen to you? Then let him know you feel something is off with her, try to make it as clear as possible that it's only a feeling but he still needs to rethink it..

IMULTRAHARDCORE · 2014-08-25T03:48:09+00:00

I went through the same thing. Earlier this year friend was marrying an ex he got back together with and I said everything under the sun to convince him not to do it or at least wait. The bottom line is you can't make him do anything and it's highly unlikely you'll be able to convince him either. The chemical cocktail we refer to as love is potent and there isn't much someone on the outside of the relationship can do to effect it. My suggestion to you is think long and hard about what you can say to convince him and say it. If it sways him great but if it doesn't you need to give him your support (grudgingly obviously). Attend the wedding, congratulate the couple, etc. When shit goes down (you would know better than me if it will) you put your hat back in your friends corner. If you fight him too much on this you risk alienating him further and possibly losing the friendship altogether. My friend is currently in the process of divorce (going back to court on the 22nd of next month) and he wishes he would have listened to me but we both know at the time he just couldn't. Women like these are witches and their spells are powerful. Just be there for your friend when he needs you ok? And remember when shit goes down not to play the told you so game, he knows you told him and it wont help anyone to remind him. Good luck.

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Methodius_ · 2014-08-24T23:49:44+00:00

How long have they been together? It sounds like they're still in the honeymoon stage from the sound of things.

And if he has to do a credit check on her, it sounds like he doesn't really know too much about the girl. I don't need to do a credit check on my girlfriend: I know just about everything there is to know in that regard (student loan debts, credit cards, etc) because it came up in normal conversation. And she knows the same about me.

2014-08-25T01:06:56+00:00

it's his job to vet her, but you're doing your due diligence as a friend by telling him he needs to delve into her background before committing to marriage. if you tell him this, and he doesn't bother, there is not much more that you can do. unfortunately for both sexes, love trumps rationale, and a lot of us learn the hard way.

2014-08-25T20:55:41+00:00

Give him a copy of this book:

http://www.revolucionantifeminista.org/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/lawrence-shannon-the-predatory-female.pdf

http://www.amazon.com/The-Predatory-Female-Marriage-Divorce-Industry/dp/0961593806

Title	My Friend is getting married
Author	hornysama
Upvotes	0
Comments	24
Date	August 24, 2014 10:58 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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