Need some help/advice

2013-05-28T13:07:11+00:00

Get new friends.

ShipYo · 2013-05-28T13:00:06+00:00

Looks like you have some unfriending to do.

SpanishGuy · 2013-05-28T13:43:34+00:00

Looks like your friends have a serious prejudice problem. You need new friends.

KRosen333 · 2013-05-28T13:17:28+00:00

Yea dude - if an underage(don't care its UK, still wrong to me) girl can't respect your decision not to sleep with her, and your friends can't respect your decision not to pursue a relationship with her, how can they respect anything you do?

I used to think pretty poorly of myself. My best friend now, pretty good friend at the time, explained it to me: "KRosen, those people are willing to just throw you away. You don't need to give them your time. You don't need to prove yourself to them. You don't need them"

And she was right. People who are willing to just throw you away like garbage... you don't need their attention.

This dad-like figure yesterday explained similar things to a pretty young girl regarding youtube

It's good advice. Get away from those guys, and move on to doing what you want to do in life, not what somebody else wants you to do.

rightsbot · 2013-05-28T12:46:17+00:00

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lordslag · 2013-05-28T17:44:31+00:00

Yeah, we get trolled a LOT here. Reading bullshit written by the Fempire designed to dehumanize us probably amounts to a part time job for every mod here, and they miss some.

Further, to be honest, yes this does seem quite unlikely, but I'll take you at your word.

You basically have only a few choices, and in TL;DR format, here they are:

Report it to the law as what it is: Sexual assault. You will suffer huge social and professional opprobrium if you do. Flip the script and demand what they'd think of you automatically and without question if she'd had made the same accusation of you.
Do the same as above without legal involvement.
Dissociate yourself from them, her and the situation. Flip the script as above to all who confront you.

Sorry, this is the West, and when the owner of a vagina accuses you of something sexual that she considered abuse, you're guilty, immediately, even if the law finds you not so.

wysiwyg2 · 2013-05-28T20:57:40+00:00

Did anyone bother to look at /u/dantheman54 account history? I don't think any of you did. There are a number of his posts that talk about an ex/girlfriend.

So take the 'MAY BE FAKE' shit off. Not everyone talks or types the same way.

To dantheman54 there's not much you can do other than stick to your guns. Don't change your story when someone asks you about it. Next time yell something along the lines of 'Get this woman/lady off me!' or yell 'Fire!'. Do not touch her and keep your hands up in the air, like the cops are arresting you, and away from her. Keep yelling until someone comes.

Now a days as a man defending yourself against a woman you can still be considered the 'guilty party' no matter what you say. People will believe what they want to believe based on what they see and she says.

What you can do is:

A) Report it as sexual assault to the police, make sure there's a record of it do not leave without them taking a report. This could save you if she ever 'reports' you for assaulting her.

B) Set everyone that was there, minus the girl that did the accosting, or knows about this down at the same time and explain what happened. Inform them that if they continue to believe that you were not the one accosted. Then you no longer wish to be friends with them.

C) If this girl shows up anywhere proclaim that you do not feel comfortable around her and leave. Also bar her from your home, tell her she is not allowed. Also inform the police of this fact, get a restraining order if possible.

Welcome to being a modern man where you have to cover your ass just to stay out of jail.

undervannsjeger · 2013-05-28T15:20:17+00:00

why did this get tagged as "may be fake"? even if it us it raises interesting points to discuss.

dantheman54 · 2013-05-28T15:31:23+00:00

"May be fake" well thanks for the support /r/MensRights

Cthulusbaby · 2013-05-29T07:11:46+00:00

Get rid of the "may be fake" tag, all of the content in this subreddit has a chance of being fake, I don't see any of the stories about divorces being tagged as such. Even on the off-chance it is fake who gives a shit?

erenthia · 2013-05-28T19:22:46+00:00

I think we need to get rid of the "May be Fake" tag. The story is pretty consistent with how people act.

As for what you should do? I can't say that there's much that can make the situation better. Don't let it go, at least with your friends, until they concede that something bad happened to you. If they can't, then you do indeed need new friends.

Title	Need some help/advice
Author	dantheman54
Upvotes	9
Comments	17
Date	May 28, 2013 12:45 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/1f72bf/need_some_helpadvice/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/MensRights/need-some-helpadvice.1172720 https://theredarchive.com/post/1172720

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