A video appeared on TikTok with the caption: “pela as pesquisas, os coreanos tem uma autoestima muito alta, então tudo é sobre ele, nada sobre voc” (“according to research, Koreans have very high self-esteem, so everything is about him, nothing is about you”) The video shows a compilation of Korean couples. In one clip, a Korean woman apologizes to her boyfriend in the street, and he brusquely pushes her away. In another clip, a man pushes his girlfriend, though not very forcefully.

The most striking thing is not the content of the video itself, but the comments. Most of them, coming from women, openly promote violence against the man. Comments such as: “If he so much as raises his voice at me, I’d smash him.” In other words, physical aggression is presented as an acceptable and even desirable response against a man.

What is truly disturbing is how normalized it is for a woman to express a desire to physically assault her male partner because he pushed her or spoke harshly to her. No one seems to question that reaction or point out that it is violent.

However, if the video were exactly the same but with the roles reversed —a woman pushing her partner and the comments filled with men saying “I’d smash her mouth if she pushed me or talked to me like that”— those men would immediately be labeled as violent, dangerous, and unacceptable. And rightly so.

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