Is everything here about jealousy ?

shbro1 · 2015-09-06T13:44:01+00:00

Whoa, slow down. Maybe be a little easier on yourself? If you just got out of a LTR, then you're at least dateable on some level. Your current unhappiness and frustration right now are probably very much related to this still:

...I am in the anger phase of my breakup...

Perhaps you're coming across as too desperate and needy right now because you're on the rebound? Otherwise, you seem positive and optimistic about women and dating, generally, which is definitely promising. You've still been getting dates based on your photos, so you can't be that terrible looking.

If you're in your early 20s, maybe take this time to focus on yourself and becoming comfortable with who you are, getting to know yourself as a single, adult man, which you might not have ever been before in your life. Start to seriously think about what your core values are, and where you'd really like to be in life. Perhaps TRP could help you in this respect - just so long as you don't start to internalize the pervasive undercurrents and outright misogyny which seem to overshadow the genuinely self-empowering advice for men it can sometimes provide, that is!

If you have anxiety over being 'alone', this will translate to desperation in the dating world, and that is a universally agreed upon fatal quality to exhibit when trying to secure a mate - for both men and women. Learn to enjoy your own company while you can, because it could save you from becoming entangled in an unhappy LTR, or worse, marriage, in the future. The self-assurance and natural ease you gain will eventually pay dividends in the dating arena, anyway, so it's really win-win.

That's my advice.

TheGreasyPole · 2015-09-06T13:09:30+00:00

You can do better, but it takes a lot of work. RP will show you how.

So your choice is.... Put the work in, and reap the benefits..... Or.... Settle for your current situation.

If it's the former, use your jealousy of others to drive you to put the work in.... If it's the latter, get over it. You chose your option. Now man up and make a go of it without being a whiny bitch.

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CuntyMcFagNuts69 · 2015-09-06T15:25:45+00:00

Red Pill is not easy. And it should not be. What you are doing is validating your weakness like every other loser on earth. That is the worst mindset to have. Height is a unchangeable factor, but your Body Fat can change, your clothes can change, your hair style, your personality.

Bloopers and the rest of the world love to tell you, you were born they way you need to be. I wake up every morning and look at my list of what I need to accomplish, usually has hitting the gym, reevaluate investments, shopping, cleaning. I am never "okay" with myself because I always want to get better. If you want to sit around and mope, that's fine but don't expect to get anywhere

Wolfsouls · 2015-09-06T17:31:12+00:00

Since attraction is not under control of people, should I just accept that I am a short guy (5’6), with below average face (my point of view and what I conclude after tinder number of matches) who is not attractive and be happy with what I have ?

Yes. Combine being grateful for what you have with lowering your standards and you can live a very happy life.

vinegarbubblegum · 2015-09-06T22:20:26+00:00

western country

but english not your first language? very intradesting.

by the third paragraph I concluded bad things about you. very bad things. "jealousy" and "tindr" were keywords.

things went off the rails by the fifth or sixth paragraph. i like to think you were crying, and typing into a phone, but not a good phone.

all I can say is that you need to not end your posts with a ;) face intended for RP guys. not a smooth move.

other than that, your shit is fucked.

louplop · 2015-09-08T13:55:31+00:00

In my experience, looks aren't that important for a guy to get a girl... In fact, in my country it's common to see smoking hot 8-9 females walking around with 5-6 males. It would appear that these girls want the extra security in a relationship of knowing they are more attractive than their boyfriends. Or ugly guys just tend to earn more money in my country, who knows.

I'm 5'11, thick dark hair, good facial hair, noticeably fit, great teeth and decent facial features... I'd say I'm a 7-8 and I've been single for like 4 years now. Girls generally don't want me. I get ignored by most girls on Tinder eventually if I try to be myself. I can be a prick and use game to get laid, sure, but it really is meaningless and empty. It makes my soul feel dirty. Even after I realised it was soul destroying, I used to get horny anyway and pick up chicks late at night but now I'm just depressed as hell feeling like I'll never find what I want. It's not a great life having loveless sex with loads of different people. Nothing compares to making love to someone you care about...

Anyway, my point is that you've nothing to worry about. Looks and what you think gives you a disadvantage with women is not important and might even be part of the reason you end up in a good relationship. I have just as much luck as any average guy when it comes to love, even though I'm constantly reminded that I'm pretty attractive. Some girls even used to tell me that I look like I probably sleep with everyone and can't be trusted because I'm handsome. Although that may be true now.

redmachines · 2015-09-06T13:09:57+00:00

No. It is about coping with failure.

BenGunnSilver · 2015-09-06T18:55:17+00:00

If you are 5'6'' and you don't have godlike facial looks like Tom Cruise to compensate for your defective height(I'm as a much of a midget as you are, bro) you should give up on women.

Women aren't attracted to short men. Not unless we have the facial looks and body that Jean Claud Van Damme had when he was 25 years old. Good luck with that. If a woman isn't fat, she's used to banging chads(perfect looking men 10/10) from the moment she turned 15, and if she's fat, the only reason she is with you is because she can't get chad to sleep with her.

I know that i ts not going to be easy. You and I are condemned to a lifetime of porn and fapping, and hatred for what we are, but that's how it is.

Yeah, being social doesn't work if you aren't at least of average height. And even then you need to work like a dog for any attention from women. Give up man, and join the FA group. That's our destiny right there.

Title	Is everything here about jealousy ?
Author	louplop
Upvotes	13
Comments	39
Date	September 6, 2015 12:33 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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