Attachment issues

1987dd1987 · 2022-03-29T15:26:08+00:00

I can suggest you some books!

Attached by Amir Levine

Passionate marriage by David schnarch

Codependent no more by melody Beattie.

The last two aren’t exclusively about attachment per say but have helped me see the importance of allowing space for two separate selves in the relationship.

I am anxiously attached and my resources reflect such.

I’d also suggest foreplay podcast with Laurie Watson and George fuller. They talk about the withdrawer and pursuer dynamic quite a bit both in terms of a sexual dynamic and an emotional one.

Do you identify as anxious or avoidantly attached?

06534956 · 2022-03-29T15:45:08+00:00

Talk to yourself, and take your time.

Acknowledge that things happened in your past that lead to you having attachment issues, and then remember that you are a grown woman now, and you don’t need to react that way anymore. You have the option to do it differently.

Whenever you get the urge to run away or send a nasty text, or go down a spiral of feeling bad and needing to take it out on your friends, family, or partner, write in a journal. Open up the notes app and talk to that. Let out all of your fears and feelings in a way that doesn’t involve other people.

It’ll come with time and practice, like learning to write with your opposite hand or learning how to properly fold a fitted sheet or how to ride a bicycle. You will learn how to let go of triggers and decide what actually needs a conversation and what doesn’t.

Milkie444 · 2022-03-30T04:29:41+00:00

Try watching Thais Gibson on YouTube. She has tons of free content that will help you.

Advanced_Bar_673 · 2022-03-29T20:11:34+00:00

"Attached" as mentioned above and "Wired for Love" by Stan Tatkin are both great books.

I also enjoyed "Love is not Enough" by Mark Manson, and you could also try "Radical Acceptance" by Tara Brach (I have not read it but hear good things).

You may also find reading books on poly/ open relationships may help, as they often give guidance on dealing with jealousy and insecurity when our partners are absent or busy.

Good luck!

Title	Attachment issues
Author	curiouslearner34
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Date	March 29, 2022 2:56 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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