End of October 2018 I got out of a relationship where I was cheated on. I was the primary breadwinner. I didn't dress feminily and definitely drove/was the aggressive one in the relationship.

I've been single for the past 9 months and have been dating via online dating apps. It has been an absolute disaster.

I have a low n count, a healthy bmi, and long hair. I've recently started dressing more feminine and taking steps to embrace my femininity.

My mom and sister have never been into looking nice, maintaining a feminine appearance, or acting like a lady so it's all foriegn. I am also in therapy to work on myself. I've developed a skincare routine.

I keep getting ghosted on online dating and it's absolutely disheartening. I need tips on how to vet a man and how to improve myself.