Hello,

My husband has been dealing with depression/anxiety/anger issues for a few years now. Recently, he's come to believe it's due to his lifestyle here in the states being cut off from family and friends and feeling isolated with no one but me and our son around him. For context, he immigrated from another country and he's been here for over 10 years and he's been struggling for about 5-6 years.

We came back from an almost month long trip to his home country last week. Ever since we returned he's been saying that we need to move to a country that is closer to his family and has a community of people from his home country. He days he feels suffocated and like he's going to drop dead one day from how miserable he is here. He's floated the idea to move before, but it's been put into turbo since we've been back last week. His timeline is to move by next September.

Today, he says he wants to go stay in France or his home country for another or two. He wants to spend the weekends traveling around Europe. He works remote, so he can do this while working. It seems like he just needs to get away. When he brought this up at first I was supportive because I didn't know what else to really say. It made me angry and resentful though. But, I told him to go ahead with it. But as he kept talking about it, my snark came out a bit. I made remarks that this type of behavior (jetting off overseas to an undetermined location for an undetermined amount of time) was not normal for someone with a wife and son. I mentioned that his mental health and behavior to me and our son didn't seem to improve while we were on our month long trip, so what was he expecting to happen while he was gone again?

We didn't really have a fight. I let him know how I felt about it as calmly and nicely as I could. He said I wasn't helping the situation and that was that. He said he doesn't really have a plan, it was just something that he was thinking about.

I guess I just don't know where to go from here? Do I remain supportive of him leaving for 1-2 months? Is this type of behavior normal? Is there any room to let him know how I feel about the whole thing? Trying to be supportive, but I've been draling eith his behavior for a long time and I'd wish he would man up and deal with his problems instead of leaving us. Maybe that's harsh of me, but it's what I'm feeling right now.