Okay so I hooked up with a friend recently who I’ve liked for awhile. We went from just talking casually / not even that much because he lives out of town to hooking up and me staying that night at his place. I feel weird about the whole thing because I felt it was too soon for where we were in the dating/ talking phases. He’s been very inconsistent with me while he’s working / at school out of town but is wonderful when I see him in person.

I feel that I’ve cancelled any chance of him taking me seriously now and want to know what I should do. I’m planning to talk to him and let him know I felt it was too soon for me, mostly because of all the red flags and inconsistency I got from him leading up to it. He’s the last person I’d expect to just try to sleep with me because he’s one of my closest and dearest friends and I always thought casual hook ups weren’t something he did. so this makes it a bit complicated.
How should I approach the conversation? I’m not looking for answers to “what are we” , I’m looking to know if this is heading anywhere outside of a casual relationship