I remember about five/six years ago u/whisper ask me how did I know my bf now husband was marriage minded. I didn’t know how to answer that. However, I would always mention to guys I was seeing that I am looking for a husband early on and he was the only guy who responded he is looking for a wife too.. We were 19 at the time. Although I do not considered myself traditional at all.. i knew that I am heavily monogamous wanted a partner I got a lot of good advice here. I also learned that happiness come in many different forms.
When we first moved in together, I tried my hardest to be traditional female doing the cooking and the cleaning. It never worked out and I sink into a major depression. Growing up my mom would always hound me about not being girlie enough and those fears carried into my relationship.
I fell into a major depression. Then I read a post about bringing your issues to your partner. I told him everything a about how I struggle to clean, about my struggles doing basic things like my hair and makeup..
He smiled and said no worries I can clean and you can cook. If you want to learn I can show you. Now five years later cleaning isn’t such a struggle for me.
We just recently got our first home together and it has brought us so much closer. He always remind me that we make up for what the other lacks. We both contribute and help equally in our relationship and I couldn’t be happier.
In addition, we both just got diagnosed with autism. It personally explains so much as our relationship is quite different from others. We both never fit in to our stereotypical gender roles. I am just so happy. It also explain why my bluntness didn’t scare him off. Lol
We eloped in secret as we can’t afford a wedding after buying a house, but I can’t wait to rebuild our fund and have a celebration with my friends and family.
I get to spend the rest of my life with my best friend.