I’m insecure about dating Chad

leosandlattes · 2025-03-13T02:24:16+00:00

A "Chad" tells us nothing about what your goals are, what's important to you, and whether this man meets the things that are important to you. Furthermore I am not even sure what you want advice on. How to handle your insecurities?

It's fine to "comfort test" (request love and reassurance) every once in a while, just make sure you're not overwhelming your boyfriend with this. Your insecurities are your own problems to handle, not his. You should also be doing activities and self care that make you feel confident and sexy. Go the gym, dress up, cultivate your femininity, be fun and flirty with your man. If that is not enough, seek therapy.

Adventurous_Limit84 · 2025-03-13T02:45:36+00:00

There is absolutely no such thing as a perfect man or a perfect partner

Dizzy_Health9674 · 2025-03-13T03:01:58+00:00

Girl go seek help before you ruin your relationship. He is not perfect, he is human. He is rich and handsome. Wonderful. Those men need partners too. Have you considered there is something about your heart, mind, demeanor, and manners that he likes? Like... RMV? Seriously? You're not buying a car. You're dating a man. Relax and be thankful you're a woman and you dont have to be at the same standards as men to be a pragmatic partner.

He must find you attractive and nice to be around. At the end of the day men can do that where as smart women date with lifestyle in mind. Thats one of men's privileges, they can chose to date for simply who makes them feel nice. Clearly you do. Dont break what God made.

AutoModerator · 2025-03-13T02:13:03+00:00

Title: I’m insecure about dating Chad

Author acorn735764

Full text: I’m dating “Chad”. My boyfriend is over 6 feet tall, has a 6 pack, makes over $250,000, no kids, devout Christian, a man of his word, etc. I have/had my own health problems, so in the past, I’ve tried to date men who made 6 figures but who were maybe overweight, or maybe they had a kid, or something else that may bring their RMV down. Feeling like the other person made the income that I wanted but also had their own “baggage” made me feel more secure about the relationship. However, my current boyfriend has everything and more. I know that I have a lot of great traits about myself, and I have a lot going for me, but the health problems that I’ve had in the past/still have maybe 15% of the time make me feel insecure about this relationship. Any advice?

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Dionne005 · 2025-03-13T03:53:43+00:00

Ok…I don’t know what your problems are but never sell yourself short. Chad may want to save you.

iminterestedinthis · 2025-03-13T05:43:25+00:00

The question is not how to not be insecure dating him, but rather how to not be insecure about who you are. Might I suggest some therapy because it is clear you have lower self esteem. You are living your life for external validation rather than internal validation.. You may logically think of yourself as beautiful, accomplished, intelligent. But you’re basing that view on what you think others think of you, rather than coming from within. Until you love your inner child, you’ll always wonder if you’re deserving of him to love your inner child.

Title	I’m insecure about dating Chad
Author	acorn735764
Upvotes	0
Comments	11
Date	March 13, 2025 2:13 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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