I tried my best to search for woman ignoring man scenarios but couldn’t find one. A mutual friend has been showing interest since January. Everything was stagnant because I was living abroad, and we’re both not the type to do pen palling. I’m okay with that. He notified me of his trip to my current city (we’re both going to be living in the same city, as I’m moving back), and was eager to finally see me - I reciprocated that energy and was really excited.

I didn’t like our first interaction, wouldn’t call it date because there was a bunch of us. I was so over it that I ended up spending most of my time with his friend’s girlfriend. Nothing dramatic but I just didn’t like the first meeting.

Told our mutual friend the truth and trusted that she’d keep it to herself. I simply told her that I wasn’t impressed by his lack of organization and would rather meet him in a different setting. She’s convincing me that I met him at the “wrong time” and just crammed me in his plans as he was on a very short stay (4days). Which does make sense.

He’s been reaching out to me ever since (2weeks ago), but I’m ignoring him. My plan is to just tell him when I arrive back to our city. If we meet up again, I plan on confronting him about my disappointment, to justify my sudden coldness. Would it create more tension if I continue to ignore him. I Ike him but I’m not attached either. He suggested that we meet over tea, way better than the previous setting. It’s not that I’m angry, so would it be more appropriate to share my disappointment in a “playful” tone. I don’t want this to turn into a bigger deal than it is, but I just don’t want to be disrespected. I honestly don’t know what to do, all my friends and family are telling me that he’s a good guy - and he seems like it. I don’t want to be so rigid that I weed out men for the slightest things