Looking for Monk Mode Advice

Irisandoleander · 2016-04-05T23:18:49+00:00

I'd suggest you read the book "Facinating Womenhood" by Helen Andelin.

CoochQuarantine · 2016-04-05T22:48:03+00:00

My first question is why aren't you looking for an LTR? Monk mode isn't something you do for years. You do it to get your head into a space where you're ready for an ltr. You don't need to know every single thing about how to be a perfect woman in order to be in an ltr. So if you plan on going into mm then there must be things you wanna work on specifically.

I would recommend the surrendered single. I did a few write ups on it. You can find it in my post history.

Then when you do that ensure your girl game is up to par. Are you taking care of yourself physically, emotionally, and financially. What that looks like for you will be different than for me. My list looks like this

Good: hair care make up skin care

Need improvement: wardrobe

Good: cooking, crochet, yoga,playing piano

Needs improvement: read more

Good: tidying up, laundry

Needs improvement: fixing stuff around the house

These things wouldn't necessarily mean I'd need to go into monk mode but they are things I constantly work on. So more background info as to why you wanna go into monk mode might help with giving advice.

munchinggobbles · 2016-04-06T01:18:25+00:00

Okay Im going to copy and paste a post i made a long time ago here:

You'll be surprised how common it is to find converted Redpill women here. Was once a hard core feminist who was just generally not happy and wanted stab any guy on the street because "THE PATRIARCHY MUST DIE" (Yep it was that bad). Basically here what I did:

1, Decided I wanted to change. (You've already done this)

2, Read the side bar and acquainted myself better with the RP concept.

3, Worked on outward stuff like looks, makeup, weight etc. just the stuff that I could change immediately

4, I found this to be hardest part, getting rid of the social conditioning that wasn't really good. Like being entitled, bitchy, rude till I came to a neutral stand.

5, Then I started implementing RP values and other stuff that I saw in people that made me want to be with them like being feminine, being empathetic, good humour.

6, If I had a doubt on anything I would post in order to get a third person perspective.

Not perfect but working on stuff. I found the whole journey of learning these thing extremely exciting, especially since I was all the way on the other end of the spectrum, like showing a person born in Antarctica McDonald's for the first time, so much better than frozen fish. If you know what I mean. Always willing to help here. :)

And to add, don't make monk mode an excuse not to be on the look out for your captain. You can always be improving in your relationship but good captain are not that easy to come by.

And I wonder if there is a comprehensive guide to monk mode somewhere in the old posts. If someone finds one. Just link it in the post.

placated_doll · 2016-04-05T21:47:37+00:00

At 18, I wish I'd made friends with a more diverse and wider group of people instead of sticking to my little clique and that I'd done a better job of balancing school and social life. I wish I'd learned to cook good, balanced, healthy, tasty meals because fitness is about 80% diet. I wish I'd worked out.

I have more regrets of how I wasted my youth, but I think the rest are mostly just byproducts of the things above.

MeditateErrDay · 2016-04-06T22:40:22+00:00

For health, check out "How to eat, move, and be healthy" by Paul Chek.

Remove sugars completely from your diet for 30 days. Including fruit.

raisin_warlord · 2016-04-06T04:38:52+00:00

I would work on getting good habits into place (Eg. Wear sunscreen everyday) and break the bad ones. The earlier you start the better.

thumbelinagreen · 2016-04-06T01:38:24+00:00

MM is different for everyone based on our diverse needs, patterns, and weaknesses. So don't get bogged down holding yourself to a universal standard. "Rigorous honesty with self about self" is my mantra and I learned that here.

Generally, read some Laura Doyle. Beyond that, read some classics. Take the time to find out what you really enjoy and dive as deeply as your attention span takes you. Just to give a personal anecdote, in my own journey I realized I had become so obsessed with maintaining 'relationships' that I let my hobbies slip into obscurity and became pretty damn boring as a result. Don't do that.

When it comes to appearance, get to know your skin and develop a routine. Dermatologists are your friend, provided you have insurance. Don't spend your teens-early 20's being at war with your face.

At 18 I wish I had been alone, first and foremost, and been more involved in college extracurriculars. I wish I had had the foresight to get my emotional and spiritual life in order. So you're already on the right track.

Title	Looking for Monk Mode Advice
Author	Aletheia9
Upvotes	14
Comments	12
Date	April 5, 2016 9:04 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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