Massive Nun Mode but Scared

Hot_Blacksmith_3404 · 2024-07-30T17:41:52+00:00

These look like great goals! It’s smart to be in nun mode for at least the first two years of school. Focus on setting yourself up for success (in lots of ways) after school.

In terms of being scared you won’t find someone, don’t worry about that now. Just by virtue of being someone who puts work into their physical and mental health, you’re already more attractive than most of the population.

Remember, physical beauty is valuable in relationships, but so is being mentally stable, fit and healthy, happy, financially responsible, feminine, kind, being good in social situations, having a couple hobbies you enjoy, etc., and there are people of all varying levels of conventional attractiveness who find a spouse they love.

AutoModerator · 2024-07-30T13:40:31+00:00

Title: Massive Nun Mode but Scared

Author TigreGrande05

Full text: I was recently broken up by my ex and I'm going into a crazy nun mode. These are the rules and goals listed. I'm only 18 and in university but I'm scared of not being able to find someone that meets my standards that's attracted to me. Part of my nun mode is improving my looks but that's for stage two of my nun mode even though I've improved my looks by a lot. I'm at a 19.3 BMI with a WHR of 0.68 but my body is an inverted triangle which is my biggest downfall right now. Is there any hope for me after my nun mode?

Mental Health - [ ] get a therapist School/Career - [ ] raise gpa by at least one point - [ ] land an internship Looks - [ ] get 10k steps or workout every single day Misc - [ ] cure vaginismus - [ ] get my drivers permit

Rules

No intentional dating (exceptions apply when close to being finished/being asked out)
Must complete all the goals or at least close to

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FastLifePineapple · 2024-07-31T00:25:40+00:00

I'm the community member who wrote the latest guide to Nun Mode (part 1, part 2, field report compilations).

Most people do not need nun mode to work on self-improvement, but some may benefit from a soft nun mode.

This involves a soft social solitude where you can be 'actively remaining single' for half a year to a year and half while you get rid of habits that may be destructive (social media, sugar, being sedentary, etc.) and replacing them with constructive and cathartic habits like surrounding yourself with good people, good food that builds your energy, and moving more as a daily habit.

While in this period of solitude (next 3-6 months), you'll want to practice the other parts of the 3I frameworks: introspection and improvement.

For introspection, a simple exercise is to simply write about your personal experiences you're struggling with:

I was recently broken up by my ex...

I'm only 18 and in university but I'm scared of not being able to find someone that meets my standards that's attracted to me.

For 15 minutes a day for 4 days.

In fact, participants in a study who wrote about their most traumatic experiences for 15 minutes, four days in a row, experienced better health outcomes up to four months than those who were instructed to write about neutral topics (Baikie & Wilhelm, 2005).

-Writing Therapy: How to Write and Journal Therapeutically

One hour additive over four days can potentially resolve inner trauma, fears, blocks, and resistance for well over a life time.

A second journaling prompt is '5 Whys'. You ask yourself if there's anything on your mind, then ask yourself why it's on your mind five times until your mind is completely clear and you've gotten to the root causes of your inner disturbance. Repeat this exercise until you've completely cleared your mind.

Once you've done the hard work of looking at yourself and where you're at through introspection, you can begin improving.

We can take:

'get a therapist School/Career' as an example of a goal to work on.

First you want to check if it's specific and relevant (SMART). Absolutely be clear on exactly what you want from this goal and why you want it. Your reason needs to be compelling.

I want to be a child and adolescent therapist because I believe every child should who's free from fear, worry, and trauma can live a life that's flourishing...
I want to be a marriage and family therapist because a strengthened family unit that is healed and thriving offers opportunities for lasting bonds and is resilient to crisis...
I want to be a geriatric therapist because the baby boomer generation are retiring and a career field in this area will be highly in demand and a stable career field is what I value...

The more specific you are with a goal and the more relevant and compelling your 'why' is, the easier it will be to measure regularly and work towards your action plan on accomplishing it.

raise gpa by at least one point
land an internship
get my drivers permit

All will revolve around the central 80/20 goal of a compelling future as a clinical therapist in an area that you truly look forwards to.

TheBunk_TB · 2024-07-31T13:27:15+00:00

Add planned and meaningful exercise into your life

SparklyPotato-P · 2024-08-01T12:19:42+00:00

We've got similar body types (I've been also trying to reduce my triangle figure) and I could offer some advice but you are still quite young (and gorgeous if I say so myself). You haven't gone through the physical changes that you get at around 22-25. I'm currently 23 and I noticed that around last year my lower body started to fill out a little bit more, towards a more hourglass figure. But I get it, I've scrutinised my hips and legs so much 4 years ago. Hip dips will always be there but we can minimise it. Also, most men really don't care about the details; they're very big picture orientated. I had brought my hip dips up with my partner and he was like it's sexy and makes my thighs look a bit bigger than they actually are lmao.

All I can say is

eat well
- whatever you find works for your body best; my macros then were 250C:100P:60F, I needed a lot of carbs since I burned through them fairly quickly and I went to the gym a lot. I wanted to gain weight.
- look into nutrition that helps with hormone health!! Even if you are not trying to conceive, having optimum hormone levels is best for mental and physical health and appearance.
sleep well
- when you have poor sleep hygiene, a lot of fat ends up around your tummy which makes us look a bit apple shaped, which is fine, but I didn't like it on my proportions
exercise well
- it's just a good habit to have, cardio is good for your heart, strength training can build lean muscle which is good in the long term, and I don't mean for aesthetic reasons and then stretching/yoga.
- In terms of hypertrophy to give the illusion of reduced hip dips/narrow hips, you could work on on your gluteus minimus and tensor fasciae latae. It won't "fill" them out completely but it's good for stabilising your legs anyway.
Learn to dress for your body type
- Look into Kibbe style (to be honest don't focus to heavily on this one because it can get quite obsessive)
- I'm still learning about this but there's this instagrammer that I follow and she has some nice inspo on not bringing attention to narrower/straight hips. She does follow a particular aesthetic but I think you can apply the silhouettes over onto different styles. [anastasiagerrans]
- Also wear what makes you feel good. people say to not wear off the shoulder tops when you have wider shoulders but I just find them so pretty so I wear them anyway (I won't wear form fitting on my lower body though)

Remember a good mental wellbeing does wonders for your outward appearance. But I get it, being masculinised sucks so bad (for me it was also mixed in with racism sadly) and it skews our perspective. But in my experience, university really helped with exposure since everyone has to interact with all sorts of people and dating became more multicultural and no one was stuck on one body type (haha though I didn't date from 19 to 21ish.).

I love the goal list though. I remember a recreational goal to my list back then (called it my glow up list hehe), so I wanted to master an art in my free time, so I learnt dressmaking XD.

Title	Massive Nun Mode but Scared
Author	TigreGrande05
Upvotes	8
Comments	15
Date	July 30, 2024 1:40 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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