Mini rant/can anyone relate?

TheBunk_TB · 2024-06-11T18:28:51+00:00

Can you be someone he doesn’t need to study or guesstimate at?

youllknowwhenitstime · 2024-06-11T14:33:18+00:00

Sounds like it's time to learn some girl game. You're in the right place, but you have to put effort in.

From this and your other posts, you would benefit from reading the sub's material for women. See the pinned posts on the main page to get started.

throwRA-lifeadvice · 2024-06-13T11:25:07+00:00

I don't really have any advice, but I can related. I was with one man in the past who both said and believed this. He told me that he knew what I wanted better than I did, so he wasn't very interested (at all) in hearing what I actually liked. To me personally it is a red flag for someone who is really telling you it will be his way or no way, and his wants will always take priority over yours.

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Title: Mini rant/can anyone relate?

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Full text: Being married to a rp dude in some cases like mine means being with someone who says “I study you women, I know what you want”, can educate me (a woman) on what women want but doesn’t bother to get to know what I want! This is a man who plans on exercising options but hasn’t bothered to explore much variety in our own bedroom with me. Make it make sense.

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HappySpinningSeal · 2024-06-11T16:43:11+00:00

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VasiliyZaitzev · 2024-06-11T17:50:09+00:00

I wonder "Why get married?" if he was going to "exercise his options"? I mean, I get that there’s a kid, at least from your post history - and that definitely would’ve been worth mentioning in the OP - but it’s still strange. Assuming it wasn’t an “oops“ baby. At any rate, this guy has not exactly covered himself in glory.

“I study you women, I know what you want”, can educate me (a woman) on what women want but doesn’t bother to get to know what I want!

First, guys who talk like this are not usually guys who can execute their master plan.

As a guy who keeps a few women at a time on the go, you can either do it, or you can't, and it's not easy. I cannot imagine maintaining the level of effort required for most guys, especially for those starting from zero - while being married. 99% of the time, a married guy's "best option" is the one he's living with, unless he's got a high status gig/lifestyle or is otherwise a studola (which is not the vibe I'm getting here.)

Side note: You are an expert on what YOU want, not necessarily an expert on women as a whole want - hear me out. If you ask a strident feminist about submission, she will likely seethe "OMG! NO WOMAN WANTS TO BE DOMINATED!!! GACK!"

Well, I can tell you, that ain't so. The erotic mind is very seldom politically correct.

Similarly, I sometimes get questions like "How did you know that..."

Me: "I've dated more women than you have."

This is a man who plans on exercising options but hasn’t bothered to explore much variety in our own bedroom with me. Make it make sense.

He might be trying to "dread" you.

At any rate, non-monogamy should be ethical - disclosed and agreed to from the start - and, just based on what you have told us without hearing his side of the story, that's not what's going on here.

Out of curiosity, did you guys have the standard "forsaking all others" in your vows?

Have you suggested that, if he proceeds, you might "explore your options" also? That would be an escalation, so I would be careful about using it, but he does seem like he could use a Code Red.

Title	Mini rant/can anyone relate?
Author	lightintheforest13
Upvotes	12
Comments	14
Date	June 11, 2024 2:22 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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