I saw this statement in an earlier post today:

Please assure me

No. That's your job to figure out if your choice is ethical, moral, and right.

Women want these pats on the back and really don't care if the pats are deserved or not. Break yourself of that addiction.

You have made a decision, and you have an ethical code. Does that decision bear integrity against your ethical standards? We have to take a hard look at ourselves and stop relying on feel-good pats.

TL;DR: Reals over feels