Hello! I’m brand new to Reddit, and this is my first post. I’ve been reading RPW for a couple months now, and trying to apply the information I’ve learned to my relationship.  

I. Background  

I am a ~20 year old white, female living in the United States. My partner is a ~30 year old white, male living in the United States. We have been together for just over one year, and share a home together. We have lived together for 5 months. We plan on getting engaged before the end of 2016. Our sex life is very active and we have sex at least once a day, but often it is two or three times (6 is our current record). He has never been turned down for sex, and I would say that initiation for sex is 50/50. From my perspective our relationship is a happy and fulfilling one. That's all the suggested information that was suggested in the directions on posting, but please let me know if more information would be helpful.  

II. Issue  

Part of learning more about TRP and RPW has been reading about the HB and SMV rating systems and how they apply to interactions in TRP universe. In my reading of TRP, an Alpha who is LTR oriented will seek to find a woman with the highest HB and SMV rating possible. And, a true Alpha will not settle for a woman who has a HB or SMV rating below his own. In the most objective manner I would rate myself a HB3, and I highly doubt that my SMV is much higher. I am overweight, and I realize that is the central factor in the HB rating system. In regards to my SMV, it is damaged by the fact that I have post-graduate education, work in a male dominated field, and have a very high n-count of 10 (includes my current partner).  

On the other hand, I believe that my partner would have an SMV rating of 8. He is attractive (physically fit, but not insanely ripped or super low body fat), well educated, works in a prestigious field, and financially stable. My partner displays many Alpha qualities, and this is evidenced by his interactions with his friends and family. His dating history prior to our relationship also points to his Alpha tendencies. He is the leader in our relationship. After learning about the patterns of Alphas, I am struggling to understand my partner’s behavior. I’ve felt from the beginning that my partner was settling by being with me, and have always struggled with understanding why exactly he continued to date me. These insecurities have been renewed in anticipation of our impending engagement.  

I believe that my impending engagement has increased by insecurities regarding the clear imbalance in our relationship. These insecurities existed prior to learning about TRP, but they have greatly increased after learning about the HB and SMV rating systems in depth. What can I do to create more balance in our relationship? I am afraid that my partner is going to wake up one day, realize how much better he could be doing, and leave me before I'm able to make the appropriate adjustments. What can you do to make it easier to swallow the realization that all that matters are your HB and SMV rating, and realizing that you have a particularly low one? Is there any way to compensate for a low HB or SMV rating in an LTR?  

III. Remediation

  I have been working on improving my HB and SMV rating. I want to be the woman my partner deserves from a physical standpoint. I have made progress on that front, and I am continuing to work on lowering my weight. Outside of the issue of physical appearance, I am very feminine and already follow the majority of the RPW tenants. I happily cook and clean, dress in a feminine manner, and work extremely hard to support my partner in every aspect of his life. I am unsure of how to compensate for my education and career, but my partner knows that I would be willing to cut back substantially or leave the workforce all together when we have children.

  TL;DR: My partner is significantly out of my league on the SMV rating scale. Why would a man want to stay with a woman with a very low HB and SMV rating?