Seeking Dating Advice

lilasbaby2 · 2019-12-28T08:25:45+00:00

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misscleanex · 2019-12-28T13:45:25+00:00

Are you trying to find "Ten little tricks that will blow every man away and make him fall in love with you!"

Men want to feel admired, respected and important. We don't have a one size fits all to accomplish that. There's things I do for my SO every day that put a smile on his face and when I did those things for an ex he'd be annoyed. Every man is different.

Men will tell you how to make them feel loved. You just need to listen and follow. If you are at this point and you don't have enough clues to go off of, either you're not listening, or he's not giving you clues, and if that's the case, there might be a serious disconnect on what you think this relationship is, and what he thinks this relationship is.

hisdhakini · 2019-12-28T16:59:49+00:00

Ask him what he wants! Be curious, and excited to know him.

szsunshine · 2019-12-29T20:12:56+00:00

He will either love you or he won’t. People say men are more logical but from my experience they are more romantic. Ask why they love their wife or gf and they can’t come up with a reason. They believe in “the thunderbolt” Be your authentic self and he will love you or not. You should be the best version of yourself for YOU.

Be your own person and develop your own interests and friendships. Don’t rely on him for companionship or something to do on a Friday night.

You can spoil him with sweetness and affirmation and affection, but don’t allow him to BECOME spoiled / too comfortable. Don’t let him take your availability for granted - if he wants to see you, he needs to check that you won’t be with friends, studying, at book group, volunteering. Don’t give up any personal goals to follow him to grad school or a job across country unless you are engaged. Talk and promises are cheap. Don’t take on any wife duties - if he wants to know if you can cook and keep a nice home, invite him to a dinner party with other guests. Key him see how nice and clean your house or apt. is kept. Don’t volunteer to clean his place or cook him dinner. If he wants you to be a wife, he can put a ring on your finger.

hazeltabby · 2019-12-28T11:25:05+00:00

use a love potion?
I'm pretty sure he will fall in love with who you are, or not. you wanna pretend something?

lilasbaby2 · 2019-12-29T05:06:58+00:00

I'm curious as to what you mean by 'entered into a relationship'? :)

guava_jam · 2019-12-30T18:03:44+00:00

congrats!! This is an exciting time. While it may be tempting to throw yourself into this relationship, make sure you are directing as much love towards yourself as you do to him. Keep doing the things you love, continue to find things and activities you love and enjoy.

How to make him happy- show him how happy he makes you. I used to think I had to do specific things but I was wrong. He needs to know that his efforts to show his love are seen and appreciated. If he does something nice, tell him how happy the thing he did made you.

Also, show him he can be open with you. If he shares something, never judge or put your two cents in unless he specifically asks for it. If you get upset at something, speak calmly and without blame and let him know how it made you feel. Be open with him with your own feelings.

Men love genuine women who have and keep boundaries. And no BS boundaries that other people tell you to have. If something doesn’t feel right, that’s a boundary that you need to talk to him about.

One last thing- relax every moment that you can, especially when you start to worry or feel anxious. Find your center and try to stay there.

2019-12-28T20:35:46+00:00

How can I make him fall in love with me?

You can't make anyone fall in love with anyone else. Not even magic can do that. Similarly, you can't make anyone fall out of love with anyone else. Not even hate can do that.

If he is in love with you, it's for who you are, not what you made him do.

Accept love openly. Accept that he may not love you. Accept that you could lose him. Just accept.

Don't force, don't convince, don't persuade.

Title	Seeking Dating Advice
Author	cambriabold
Upvotes	1
Comments	17
Date	December 28, 2019 7:27 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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