Thoughts on the "second shift" mentality?

DeepWaterRose · 2019-01-08T06:21:42+00:00

Jordan Paterson has a fun little video about this on YouTube - he compares it with training rats.

The basic premise is, that when the rat/your man does something you want it to (probably by accident the first time) - BAM - you reward it/him. Then the rat will try to do it again, to trigger the reward. You will keep giving it rewards, and then the rat will probably get a bit borred, and do another move, (emptying the trash, and wash of dishes) and - BAM - reward again.

But you have to be patient! And reward your partner for the job , even though you could have done it better. Definitely not lurke on him for two weeks, and then react with "why did you wait two weeks to take out the trash!?" When he finally does what you want.

Instead reward him greatly when he does it by him self (be patient enough to let it happen by his initiative) and then praise the hell out of him! 😉

Say how happy you are, how it makes you relax better at home, brings you in a relaxed and happy mood, and it, this is maybe a bit weird, but that it actually really turn you on when he does small things like that for you, and that you find it sexy when he help out with out having to be asked (I would find that totally sexy), like mind reading.

With this strategy it is very important that you actually notice when he does the things you want him to do and praise him. Men love to make their woman happy! Good luck with it 😊

FleetingWish · 2019-01-08T07:45:15+00:00

It's just another way of saying that you care more about this stuff being done than he does. People remember things that are important to them.

You reminding him means that he just doesn't care as much as you do. There's no point in being mad about it, it's no different than you not caring about what muzzle velocity of a AR15 chambered in 308 is (or whatever his interests are that you don't care much about).

People are geared to care about different things (especially men and women, because they are so different). Don't waste your energy on being annoyed that he doesn't care as much as you do about household chores, in order to remember them like you do. Instead be greatful that he cares enough about you to be willing to pitch in and help you when you remind him... Even though he doesn't really care about doing it.

SraSB · 2019-01-08T06:55:18+00:00

For most of the people I know this is the reality. Not everyone, but most. When both work same amount of hours or even the husband works less. The wife will still be in charge of groceries, housekeeping, doctors appointments for the kids, school events, etc.

Before I get a bashing IM TALKING OF TGE PEOPLE I KNOW. There will be exceptions, like with everything. But it's definitely the norm

In your case op, you will need to get organised and create a schedule so you can be on top of things.

FlyingSexistPig · 2019-01-08T14:31:43+00:00

There will not be equality in every aspect of your relationship, but hopefully there will be balance.

You don't work right now, and yet he still does some domestic tasks. He pays ALL the bills and still does domestic tasks. Where is the equality in that? Where is the balance?

Title	Thoughts on the "second shift" mentality?
Author	maylee97
Upvotes	6
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Date	January 8, 2019 5:42 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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