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[–][deleted] 32 points33 points34 points 10 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Don't fail? I very much disagree.
Many men, myself included, are here because we failed in some way. Failure is crucial. Keep an open mind and learn from your failures. If I hadn't been cheated on by my gf I would probably still be complacent and stuck in my usual routine. I failed in my relationship, as a partner and as a man and leader. She found someone else and branch swung.
If you don't fail and accept failure it just means you are still too comfortable in yourself as a person, and in your place in life. Anyone who pushes himself out from the familiar and comfortable will as a natural result fail sometimes. Embrace that. Experiment, fail and learn from it. The more risks you take, the more you fail but you also succeed more.
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[–]RedSugarPill13 points14 points15 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think you can edit the post. P.S. I love your movies!
[–]Dietyz0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"don't accept failure, don't accept mediocrity" would also be a good one
[–]maadkekz36 points37 points38 points 10 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link
Recently unplugged beta & new to RP, still struggling to get my head around all of this information/terminology if I'm honest. I'm out on a mission to change my fucking life, so for people like me this sort of easy, simple structure goes a long way to helping. Thank you.
[–]Miheegz5 points6 points7 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
/u/maadkekz
Just a word of warning not to get too focused on simplifiy TRP into a few statements. When I first discovered TRP thats exactly what I was loooking for as well. But trust me its a cop out. A summary is good to look back on to remind yourself of general guidelines but you MUST dive deep into the trp material (read sidebar) and understand where the guideline comes from in order to internalize it. Otherwise you will fall back into Beta tendencies bc a guideline/3 rules cannot cover all scenarios however theory can! If you internalize the theory you will be equipped to handle all scenarios. Just think of it like Calculus or any other complex subject. You may be able to handle some problems by just memorizing rules but you will quickly reach your limitations.
[–]maadkekz0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Cheers mate, I intend to do just that.
I've downloaded a few of the recommended books and read a lot of informative articles. Long train journey ahead tomorrow so I'll be listening to the "No more Mr Nice Guy" audiobook. I'm really blown away by how well-adjusted this community seems and the camaraderie that exists.
After reading some of the literature I feel like I'm having some sort of existential crisis; I'm on the outside looking at the wet drip that I've become - and it disgusts me. I'm looking to TRP to help restore my confidence and make me more assertive/focused.
[–]Miheegz1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Good stuff man, keep at it. No more mr.nice guy was my first trp read and it is a great launching pad. It described me fully at one point and it sucks realizing how badly you've been misled your whole life. I love our brotherhood too. Most if not all of us came here broken and have seen how much TRP can do for a man so we are quick to aid a fellow journeyman bc that is what TRP is a journey to being a better man. Good luck and godspeed!
[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 10 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Same here. Easy does it. Well, more like concise, concrete, tangible rules that I can look to for assistance. The theory and field reports go a long way too. But rules or even to-do lists go along way for a scatter brain. Haha. Thanks.
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[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Thanks buddy. This one? No More Mr. Nice Guy
What line of work or schooling are you in if you don't mind me asking?
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Cool man. Are you on social media? I am on everything because I took a 3 year hiatus from it all during my LTR. But now I don't know. I feel like monk mode is the way to go for now. I'm stressing man.
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[–]LackOfLogic2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Also, be prepared to come face to face with your former beta self, that motherfucker is hard to kill. But stay strong, and all will be good.
[–]UniversalFapture0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm adding this to my notes so I can always have a reminder
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Just write a list on what you have to do and sub lists on how you do it and try to apply it in daily life eventually it will become natural. Just like riding a bike.
[–]jimmy1god02 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
These are mine...
[–]Senderious2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
We should have a list of commandments just like this added to the sidebar.
[–]umlal0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
So long and thanks for all the memes!
[–]1grubek2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It is not possible for a human to be emotionless. A much better point of view that incidentally made my frame way better is: understand your emotions and use them for your own advantage, train and use your emotions to remain cool and calm, or sporadically rage if necessary.
Suppressing emotions leads to anxiety. Understand, train and use your emotions to build a manly frame.
[–]Philhelm1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Suppressing emotions leads to anxiety.
I grind my teeth often. The only real emotion I ever show is anger, but that's probably not a good thing.
[–]Endorsed ContributorThe_Titleist2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Also, READ
The most helpful books come from the following subjects:
1) HISTORY
American Military History
Napoleonic Wars
Chinese History
Political History
2) PHILOSOPHY
Sun Tzu
Plato
Niccolo Machiavelli
Friedrich Nietzsche
3) ECONOMY
Game Theory
Adam Smith
John Maynard Keynes
Friedrich Hayek
[–]Krainz1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Keep your emotions to yourself.
What about positive emotions? Thrill, excitement, happiness? Don't they show high self-esteem and therefore high personal value?
[–]scarfox11 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just remember red pill doesn't happen in one day, it's a learning process and we usually have to go through things to realize them, even if we're told they're probably true. We just now have the mindframe of how to interpret and respond to situations and learn from them better. Whereas before, we would keep making the same mistakes despite the evidence.
[–]1commentatorX3 points4 points5 points 10 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Dont fail
Fucking retarded advice.. please elaborate? Otherwise good post.
[–]BP_Purge5 points6 points7 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
In this context, "Don't fail" has more of an abstract meaning. What OP likely was referring to failure in the sense of giving up. That is the only true failure. Bombing a conversation? Lesson learned. Fucking a shit test up? Lesson learned. Deciding that a chick who has had sex with 25 men before meeting you is worth LTR status? As long as you realize how fucking stupid that was then lesson learned. To fail is to not realize these mistakes and fail to correct your behavior next go around.
[–]aazav2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you never fail, you never realize the cost of failure and why you need to do it right.
[–]DalekJay2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not Retarded, he didnt meant to never fail, he meant to have a mindset on always go strong, was just a form of writing after you follow the other bullet points you arrive on a never fail mindset, what you always will aim to.
Like lifting if you arent lift heavy nearly failing on the last rep, you should be having lifting harder as if you dont, you are not get the most of your training. So go there do something aiming to never fail, if it does ok, if you dont, you get much more than going ordinay. In my job I´m known by being better almost overkill, when playing games I'm the best than most average, playing piano I'm better than average and so on
It´s the Law 15, but for all your problems/goals
[–]Endorsed Contributorredpillbanana1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Fail fast, fail cheap, fail often.
It should be: "Don't Lose"
2nd place is the first loser. No one cares about the losers or those who didn't win. What they care about are results and either you can procure results or you can't. Doesn't matter how. No one cares how many times you failed nor will you ever garner any pity for your failure. In the end, you either won and produced a valuable result. Or you failed and no excuse will make people respect or think any better for your failure.
[–]andru2010 points1 point2 points 10 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Rio Ferdinand has a good point here: "It's not about participating. You got to win. Don't accept losing."
https://youtu.be/75KluX-1Wps?t=40m14s
Don't accept losing either.
[–]blackhawks930 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You should add that no one truly cares about you unconditionally. If you want love, buy a dog.
[–]benediction_in_mind0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Women love emotions. Long as you're giving them positive ones.
These are the bullet points I needed! Thanks
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