Going out at night can be daunting. There are crowds, everyone seems to know everyone else, and women are all dolled up. This leads to fear for going out alone. However, I've noticed that going out alone vs going out with friends has its benefits as well as its consequences. For example, bad wings can mess up or even steal your target woman. They can distract you and give you unnecessary pressure to look good and perform a conversation and escalation in front of them.
When you go lone wolf, you allow yourself a certain freedom and independence that enables you to maneuver with swiftness and deft. You are not tied down by your friends, and you are not reliant on them to have fun.
Don't get me wrong, having friends there can have certain advantages. Women go in groups, and a friend can distract the other women while you build rapport with your woman. Going out at night you even bond with your friend, which can be good in and of itself. But sometimes, whether out of necessity or choice, we must go out at night alone.
The first thing you need to do is to relax. Take the stress off and tell yourself you are there to meet new people, have fun, and open up opportunities to get numbers and get laid. You are leagues ahead by going out rather than staying at home shut up in your room watching internet porn or whatever.
The second thing you need to do is to apply a sense of perspective. Going out alone means you may not recognize all that is going around you. You should be calm, patient, and approach casually and with confidence. Being alone isn't a black mark that makes you uninteresting, in fact if they ask you can just tell the truth that you came out to meet new people.
The third thing you need to do is to be comfortable approaching sets of two. The majority of women go out with their friend, so you need to be able to neutralize the friend while going after your target woman. Guide after guide has been written on approaching women so I won't go into detail here, but what I will say is that you must expect and not be intimidated by sets of two women together.
I recommend ordering water and tipping. With water, you have a drink in your hand that hydrates as well as doesn't dull your senses. You tip because you will be spending some time there and you want to be respectful of the bartender.
Approach mixed groups. Groups with men and women are prime spots to meet new women who are there just with their guy friends or within any sort group. I have a friend that specializes in hitting on guy/girl sets and crushes it, even in front of the guy. As long as you come off as fun and sociable, you should be accepted.
Get phone numbers instead of Facebooks. Phone numbers are personal. Facebooks are for friends. Also, you may have mutual friends of women you've added in the past, and she will probably ask about you from them.
Be a good conversationalist. This means being able to bullshit, ramble, and speak without filter. Talk about anything and everything. Remember that this isn't a Mensa convention, this is a bar, and women are there for the good feelz and attention.
Be able to dance. Take a salsa class or something similar. Getting the girl dancing with you is a huge advantage.
Finally, I recommend being able to fight. Not that it will ever get to that point, but by being able to fight, whether it's through boxing classes or something similar, you display supreme confidence, something that will guide you throughout the night. Boyfriends get cocky in front of their girlfriend, being able to disarm them through diplomacy as well as show through your eyes and body language you can take them on will lead you to success in these situations.
Conclusion: If it's Friday or Saturday night, live it up like you should. Go out, even if it's by yourself, and fight for your right to be a part of womens' lives. Enjoy yourself, have fun, and focus on how you can make the most of your time now that you have the freedom to maneuver at will.
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