Another fine example for alpha fux, beta bux: experienced F wants husband to impersonate the abusive ex in bed

robesta · 2014-07-18T20:40:09+00:00

I'm confident she's not cheating.....

If she's not, it's cause he doesn't want to.

kinggluejar · 2014-07-18T21:50:01+00:00

Notice how she waits until after he puts a ring on it so he can't just back out.

2014-07-18T20:29:27+00:00

Holy fuck me sideways..

If "run for the hills" could ever be more appropriate than it is here now, please show me where.

IamAwaken · 2014-07-18T21:33:45+00:00

Note: she had 11 partners

Strong support for avoiding these high count girls as ltr material.

Once again if you at any point you aren't getting the sex you want something is wrong. You can only blame yourself, because you pick your poison. Evolve or suffer/die.

anonlymouse · 2014-07-18T20:39:38+00:00

This is where you wish you could divorce without having to pay alimony and any of the other shit - 'cause that's just cruel for both of them. I don't know if there's any helping her, but he's screwed either way, and he could at least save himself if the laws weren't so fucked up.

TannhauserOverture · 2014-07-18T21:04:37+00:00

Goddamn. The poor guy. He went head-first into the provider-trap and didn't realize until it was too late. Hell, I'm sure the wife didn't even realize. This is some epic stuff and all the info is there. Alpha widow stuff.

Him: Virgin, Her: "11 Partners" at 27 (sure!!) Him: 27, Her: 29 (le Wall)

She literally lost interest in sex with her hubby the minute he said "yes". She is so fucking the Ex (or, if she has any self control, at least really really wishing she could fuck him).

And the hubby? Buys the ex's cologne and a fucking polo for foreplay. Jeez that's horrible, even for reddit-standards.

Edit: She says the ex fucked her so hard, so good and so deep that she literally needs HIM in order to get aroused. It's like he is her fetish. And she's not even trying to cover it up. Wonder if any of my exes have that problem. Prolly not though.

deepsouthscoundrel · 2014-07-18T23:34:03+00:00

First I saw the title, "My wife wants me to act like her ex-bf in bed..."

Then I thought to myself, "You know, I bet this requested shift in personality won't be towards being more caring, attentive, loving, or compassionate. I bet she wants to be treated far more aggressively and with less respect than this guy is treating her."

Then I clicked the link and read this:

They dated while she was in grad school and the relationship lasted about three years. It broke off because he started to become abusive and finally sexually assaulted her...

...So she wants to say his name during sex and wants me to do the same things he did in bed; wear the same smelling cologne, say the same things, etc. Otherwise she just couldn't get into it.

I hate being right.

mordanus · 2014-07-19T00:59:05+00:00

This is one of the best blue pill posts I've seen in a long time. This guy is a whole mess of pathetic. I laughed almost the whole time reading this. What a beautiful example of an alpha widow.

Anyone else notice the theme in situations like this where the girl keeps saying her ex was abusive and horrible but keeps in contact with him and wishing her new man would emulate the abusive ex? I no longer believe a woman when she says her ex was abusive because there is just too many of them crying wolf. Always same old bullshit to make her into the victim so that more drama can pile into her life and people can give her sympathy and protect her.

intrcept · 2014-07-19T01:03:57+00:00

"It broke off because he started to become abusive and finally sexually assaulted her..."

Notice how "it broke off," which means that ex-bf dumped her? Had she left him, he would have mentioned it.

Also, the bit that he "sexually assaulted her" is very likely bogus. She resented the breakup and reframed it as having an abusive boyfriend.

FemtoG · 2014-07-19T01:08:23+00:00

"Dear Reddit, my wife only gets off when she recreates fucking her abusive ex. What do I do?"

I'm laughing and crying.

How fucked up is our society that this guy doesn't immediately leave her. How fucked up is our society that even if he does decide to leave her (like any sane man), the divorce payments may convince him or even force him to stay. How fucked up is our society that he dressed up as her ex in an effort to please her.

"Get her counseling" is what everyone clamors. Disgusting.

JP_Whoregan · 2014-07-18T22:12:30+00:00

Lol another Alpha Widow, just longing to be treated like a dirty little whore, all to the chagrin of her new Beta Bux.

moosik85 · 2014-07-19T07:23:22+00:00

She is an alpha widow.

I call bullshit on the ex abusing/ raping her. More likely he was dominant in bed and tore that pussy up. She's trying to rationalise it as abuse so she can move on.

Husband sounds like a typical beta that married a slut. All he sees is unicorns and fairies. If only he knew really what his now princess gave to all those other guys for nothing more than a hella and a taxi ride.

Fucking LMFAO at counselling. All that is, is a money draining circle jerk.

Invalidity · 2014-07-18T22:30:19+00:00

Refuse to enable her problems and demand she seek mental health care

From the very first comment with the most upvotes. Anytime a woman is put on the spotlight and her actions deviate from what people consider socially acceptable, they suggest that she requires mental health checkups.

People refuse to accept this as standard female behavior. That is a far bigger issue than the story itself.

2014-07-19T08:11:53+00:00

When we got married, I noticed a noticeable lack of interest from her when we were having sex. We'd still do it 2-3 times a week (which is fine by me) but she's just wasn't into it. She treated it like a chore, went through the motions.

Oh man. Marriage, not even once.

It broke off because he started to become abusive and finally sexually assaulted her.

Probably just some shit she came up with after he cheated on her with another girl.

she wants me to act like her ex-boyfriend in bed. She says that he fucked with her mind so much that she has a psychological need to associate sex with him. So she wants to say his name during sex and wants me to do the same things he did in bed; wear the same smelling cologne, say the same things, etc.

Looks like for some reason the old guy doesn't want to bang her anymore, so now her husband's supposed to play his role. Fucking hell, how bad can it get?

Finally two days ago I agreed to do what she wanted. I bought that cologne, dressed in polos during foreplay cause that's what her ex did, and sadly she was completely animated during the whole night. She laughed and was so wild that it reminded me of how we used to be during dating.

Oh my god, wow. Thank god I'm not that guy.

I've never before had a girlfriend while she's had eleven partners before

Oh really? Big fucking surprise here.

What in the bloody fuck do I do now?

Get divorced and hopefully learn from your stupidity.

AlienSunrise · 2014-07-19T00:53:37+00:00

In my opinion, the best way to overcome this would be to become more aggressive. Instead of her saying the exes name, he needs to look her in the eye sternly, with purpose , that he is her man. Honestly just man up. If she likes to be roughed up, give her rough sex, pull her hair a little bit while in doggy style. Slap her ass and man handle her. Show her that there's some testosterone in those veins somewhere.

IamAwaken · 2014-07-18T23:25:28+00:00

Simple answer really. He should put a brown paper bag over her head and pretend she's someone that actually desires him. Equality!

2014-07-18T23:46:24+00:00

What kind of bad boy wears polo shirts?

APrivatephilosophy · 2014-07-19T05:08:53+00:00

I'd stake my entire life on that he was never abusive, she's just pulling that made up sob story for some attention or something. "I'm cognizant of the fact that I was so abused by him that I need you to pretend to be him while we have sex." Look, nobody smells what this guy is stepping in? Not even HIM?

I'd also wager she's had at least doubly the number of sexual partners she's admitting to.

This chick is a real piece of work. So's he though. This ship is going down on fire.

Overkillengine · 2014-07-19T07:53:27+00:00

Dude just needs to go straight to divorce/annulment now. Anything else is sinking extra time/money/effort into someone not fixable.

gabilromariz · 2014-07-18T21:29:29+00:00

Another case of "don't stick it in the crazy". Poor guy, I hope he divorces soon, that's no way to live

HolographicWhaleTail · 2014-07-19T16:08:50+00:00

This is some of the most emasculating shit I've ever heard. It's bad enough that she respects him so little that she'd ask him to do something like this, but then he actually goes out and does it. I wonder what was going through his head when he went out and bought these things. "This is the cologne her ex wore," or "I need this polo to look like her ex or else she won't enjoy being with me". I'm not even mad at his woman, she obviously has some obsession with her ex, it's just crazy to me they there's men out there that are willing to literally become someone their not for their "princess".

bertstare10 · 2014-07-19T05:34:48+00:00

hahaha strong trend of wives abandoning their sex lives as soon as they get married haha strong trend is STRONG

bat_mayn · 2014-07-19T14:15:04+00:00

0/10, would not bang.

Would tell her to go fuck herself and to see a therapist. If your partner doesn't like being intimate with you , as you are - and either one of you are not being satisfied - then it's done. Over.

riverraider69 · 2014-07-20T17:48:47+00:00

D E V I

Because none of them understands what is happening they have to go through this pitiful charade. It's not the polo shirts and the cologne, he just has to be more dominant in bed.

Title	Another fine example for alpha fux, beta bux: experienced F wants husband to impersonate the abusive ex in bed
Author	kinkydiver
Upvotes	62
Comments	55
Date	July 18, 2014 8:05 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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