Are you a Validation Whore?

Here at TRP we do a professional job of teaching young impressionable men how to not be afraid of grabbing them by the pussy. But we so focus on whether we can, that we never stop to think whether we should why we do it.

Now, of course the obvious answer is "because men are programmed by millions of years of evolution to like pussy, duh". Of course. But is that all?

Because, let me tell you, the vast majority of men do not make an objective evaluation of the value of pussy. Pussy (and, on occasion, the pussy maintenance unit attached to it) can provide entertainment and the fulfillment of a biological imperative, but the way most men treat it, the lengths of worry and stress most men are willing to go to acquire and retain pussy are not in accordance with its actual value.

We can all see this. Desperate beta orbiters spending man-years of effort chasing the elusive whiff of fanny; boyfriends letting themselves be browbeat into betahood all so they might hope for a quickie that night; husbands who go to ridiculous lengths to try to appease their harpy wives. Why? why do men do this?

It can't be because of an objective evaluation of the value of pussy as an entertainment and lust-fulfillment solution. Therefore there must be some other (real or perceived) value to it, at least for certain men.

I'm here to offer you the diagnosis to this widespread malaise: Validation Whoredom.

Even in our increasingly PC and superficially woke society, the standard that a real man should be a stud is absolutely widespread. Heroes get the girl. Real men leave their women sexually fulfilled. Cool guys, even if they're evil, are sexually irresistible.

On the other hand male virgins, sexually incapable men, dudes with short dicks, romantically awkward guys and anyone else who shows any sign of not being a stud are routinely mocked and pitied. It's so widespread and unchallenged a form of derision it is in ample use even among woke progressive circles.

And men aren't stupid. We might be bombarded with PC propaganda, it may fuck with the heads of many of us, but we also hear and see the clear example that society provides of just what kind of opinion a sexually unproficient man warrants: mockery, shame, pity.

Against this barrage of potential shaming and embarassment, how do men react? strangely enough, it is one field of social behavior in which nearly all men, regardless of their apparent differences, behave the same.

We all respond to this implicit (and often quite overt) threat of shame by worrying a lot about our sexual success. The form of this worry varies, but its presence is the same across nearly the entire spectrum of sexual success.

For virgin losers it's obvious, everyone can see the way they worry about their lack of success. But one of the most common mistakes people make when imagining the life of sexually successful men is thinking that they don't worry about pussy.

In reality, it's very few men who've learned to overcome Validation Whoredom. If you get to know your local Chad Thundercocks, you'll actually find that many of them, quite strangely, engage in a high degree of worrying about how and when they'll ge the next girl, or if they can retain some current one they have.

And this is because even most Chads haven't really understood, and thus haven't overcome, Validation Whoredom.

So what is Validation Whoredom?

It is the pathological obsession of proving to yourself that you're sexually attractive, by being validated in your sexual attractiveness by women.

It is a frenzied attempt at staving off the threat of shame that is implicit in not being a stud.

It is why many Chads obsess to ridiculous degrees about their looks and their game, even though they wouldn't need to to drown in pussy.

It's why incels reach such incredible depths of desperation, self-loathing and hatred.

What all these men are doing is vastly overvaluing the acquisition of pussy, way above its recreational and instinct-fulfillment value. They're overvaluing it because every time they acquire pussy they feel the pressure of not having to fear being a loser ease off.

Even most Chads operate like that. They keep chasing pussy, even though they should be de-prioritizing it compared to other things going on in their lives, because they derive so much validation from being sexually successful that they feel a chasm of dread in front of them if they do not constantly re-demonstrate that they're attractive. Many of these Chads later settle down to marry, and their marriages more often than not become of the standard type. Chaddishness itself doesn't save you from anything.

For incels, virgins and other sexually unabundant men, it's the idea of finally lifting the mountain of fear and shame off their shoulders that is so incredibly appealing. Their awkwardness, and their fear that rejection will confirm just how much of a loser they are, generally keep them from engaging in practical attempts, but the search for validation is there all the same.

Are you a Validation Whore?

Almost certainly yes. Let's face it: the large majority of men reading TRP aren't sexually successful, and sexually unsuccessful men are rarely NOT Validation Whores. It's nearly impossible to philosophically extricate yourself from Validation Whoredom before you've at least assuaged it by achieving sexual success.

But, as I reiterated above, even most sexually successful men are still Validation Whores, in that they overchase and overinvest in pussy, past its entertainment value, because acquiring pussy gives them validation that they still "have it".

I've been a Validation Whore most of my life. I was one when I was getting in an LTR after another, oftentimes without really feeling it just so I could have a girlfriend and not have to worry about that. I was one when I swore off LTRs and monogamy and began spinning plates, and invested unhealthy amounts of mental resources into maximizing sexual abundance.

So how do you cure yourself of being a Validation Whore?

I would like to say you can do it purely mentally, but I don't believe that to be the case. In my opinion, the weight of fear imposed by social attitudes towards non-studs is such that you need to become a stud before you can deprogram yourself from that fear. Doing it while you're sexually unsuccessful is, imho, a hollow attempt at self-deception.

So, first things first, become sexually successful; TRP gives you the gameplan on that. You will be seeking validation in that, there's no escape. You will find yourself overinvesting in the chase of pussy just to see how far you can really get, and that you really do have what it takes to slay like a warlord. There is too much pressure on each of us from birth not to feel like we need to prove that to ourselves.

Then, when you have gotten to that level, you need to start noticing, as in "consciously pointing out to yourself", when you are overinvesting in the chase of pussy. Are you going out to fuck plates so many nights a week you're ignoring hobbies and not getting enough rest? are you spending way too much time managing your plates, because you've got so many of them you actually have to juggle a schedule to keep them all straight? do you keep hitting up new prospects on Tinder even though you can't really fit them into your life at the moment?

Up until a few months ago, I was doing all of those things. I was so high on the marvel of being sexually successful that I just couldn't fucking get enough. But the practical drawbacks of that (especially the lack of sleep and free headspace) started to weigh in, and I'm pretty good at introspection, so I was quickly able to zero in on just why I was going to overboard with it. Every girl was, simply put, proof that I was sexually capable, and I felt that often I was driven more by the desire for that validation than the practical enjoyment of the girl herself.

I'm not entirely cured of it, it's likely that I'll never be and that's perhaps a good thing: a correct amount of pressure to perform should exist, as a mechanism that helps us not become too complacent.

But, with the help of conscious re-evaluation of the value each plate and proposition brings to my life, I've been able to rebalance it all out in a way that is far more conductive to my actual interests. Validation has become a distant concern, and actually enjoying what I'm doing with women has become the clear, primary focus, which it only too rarely managed to be before.

Lessons learned:

• most men chase pussy so desperately not because of the practical enjoyment they'd draw from it, but because in pussy they hope to find validation that they "have it" and they're not the sad loser that society says any sexually unsuccessful man must be

• this is true of kissless virgins just as much as Chads; most Chads actually dedicate an excessive amount of worry to the chase of pussy, and it's because they too need that continued validation

• this Validation Whoredome makes men too outcome dependant, and makes them overinvest in pussy: they spend too much resources in chasing it, to the detriment of other areas in the lives

• the pressure of this validation is such that it's probably impossible to rid yourself of it because you've achieved sexual abundance, but after you have, you can fight it off, and consenquently come to much greater and more enjoyable control of your sex life