Humans evolved to feel like the most important thing to an alpha male are his purposes, and he absolutely cannot let anybody distract or deter him from those purposes. Imagine the alpha leading the tribe on a hunting expedition, and right as the alpha is about to plunge a spear into the heart of a buffalo that will feed the tribe for weeks, a woman who does nothing but post selfies on Instagram all day texts the alpha looking for attention. If the alpha ignores the hunt to text the Instagram model back, the tribe starves. Now imagine Mike Tyson is walking to the ring for a World Championship fight and right as he is about to enter the ring the same worthless Instagram model texts him. Again, if he stops and texts her back, he loses the World Championship and destroys the very thing that made him attractive. In the same way, if a woman senses that she is distracting you from your mission, whatever your mission happens to be at the time, she loses respect for you, even if your mission is just enjoying a music festival or a night out at the bar.

In the modern world, peoples’ basic needs are easily met and even busy guys with awesome lives have lots of free time to text girls and like booty pics on Instagram. The tribe will not starve, nor will it really affect your time or schedule to spend 2 minutes and $15 buying a woman a drink at the bar, but womens’ subconscious minds are still wired to feel like a man who is even a little distracted from his mission is compromising the safety and success of the tribe and cannot be the alpha male. To her subconscious mind you are letting thieves and leeches rob the tribe and you might as well be giving your wallet to a homeless guy.

Once you realize how important it is for the alpha male to remain focused on his mission and how deeply women care about where the man’s focus is, you realize why women are sometimes attracted to men who act aloof and ignore them. When a woman emotionally invests in a man, she subconsciously assumes he is ignoring her to pursue some awesome adventure, which makes him even more attractive. Meanwhile, the guy might not actually be pursuing a cool adventure at all; he might just be watching TV and scratching his balls. It does not matter – her subconscious mind fills in the details of the frame with wild fantasies of the cool stuff he might be doing.

At the same time, however, men and women evolved to emotionally connect when they both appropriately contribute to a common purpose, so you can and should reward women when they contribute to your emotional experience. If a woman from the tribe texts the tribal chief the location of buffalo to help the hunt, he should thank her and probably give her some of the meat from the hunt. Similarly, if a woman cooks and cleans for Mike Tyson as he trains for the title fight, Mike should do something for her after he wins. And so forth. And on a smaller scale, if a woman is contributing to you having a fun night at the bar or a nightclub, you can pay her attention. But please note that you can only reward a woman AFTER she contributes. Humans evolved to feel like there is one alpha and many betas, and the alpha does not have time to do a bunch of stuff for each beta in hopes they might contribute later.

To establish boundaries, you must create a set of rules for yourself that will not violate under any circumstances, no matter how emotional you get about the woman. Your particular rules will depend on your purposes, your values, and your temperament, so I cannot tell you exactly what they should be. I am not even sure what the “correct” rules even are - I can just give you a few examples of rules I maintain for myself:

1) I never wait for a woman for more than 20 minutes unless she has a very good excuse.

2) I do not buy anything for a woman unless she has done something significant for me first (for example, coming to meet me on a date).

3) I do not stay up past a certain time unless certain things are happening.

And so forth.

Although I cannot tell what specific boundaries to construct, I can give you two primary principals that should guide the construction of your boundaries: 1) You must follow the alpha male quid pro quo and 2) you absolutely cannot let a woman distract you from your purposes. If a woman wants your time and attention, it must generally fit the framework of your purposes, and she must give more than she takes. If you can stick to these two principles, you will generally construct good boundaries.

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